I only like hot women, is that a crime???

[Baal]

Hey Freeones,

Its been too long since i've been to this site. Man, I miss u guys and gals (ladylove - that means u!)

So I'm home for a week on disability but had a wierd experiance last thursday and after burying my head in the sand, I decided to defer to the freeones judges on this one.

My wife likes chicks - cool right? I thought so untill a couple we know visited from out of town. After getting kicked out of a club b/c they were finger popping each other, we went home and I said to my wife, dont do this cuz they guys and old friend and he would definately want in, and I dont do the whole swordfighting thing. But she begged me, "dont deny me this" etc...so I said, what the hell. True to form, I made a deal with my bud saying, we watch, thats it... He broke the rules (mind u, he never laid a finger on my wife!!!!) That wasn't the issue. The issue was, after tons of cunnilingus on the girls part, he starts rammin his girl in the same room. My hardon went waaaaay down, and my wife got pissed that i couldn't dick her. She wasn't that great of a lay (the girlfriend anyway) not my type and I told my wife that but it wasn't really for me anyway. I did her like a champ in the morning yada yada etc...

So we talked it out the next day and I ws like, man I was a little pissed cuz i didn't want her to begin with, and I certaintly didn't want another sausage at the party - she was definately cool with that. We've hooked up with another girl only very rarely because we can never seem to agree on one that attracts us. This is the second time this year she hooked up with a chick I found to be ugly - SORRY BUT I HAVE STANDARDS - you have to look at least as good as my wife for me to be interested...

Now you have to understand, my wife is smokin, this chick was ok but I felt a little cheated because i wasn't into it. Am I just being a snob about this whole thing. I'd like to think not... We have amazing sex as it is, but when she wants to spice it up, I could use some advice on coercing the selection process. My gut tells me my wife wants to be the hottest chick in the room and thats why she picks em like this... I asked her about that and she got all sheepy... Nothing ruins an A average like a B or a C, ya know!

I even considered getting myself a toy this afternoon out of spite! Not happening but this is where I'm at - I'm a little confused here freeones, any suggestions? My friend and I haven't spoken since, I'm still pissed at him for breaking his word.

 

[Calm]

When my gf and I talked about having a 3some (just in theory, I don't see it developing anywhere) she flat out told me that she doesn't want the other girl to be hotter than her.
Yes, every woman is different and all that but I would reckon that you are right and she wants to be the hotter girl.

 

[member006]

First off :wave: Nice to see you around again.

My gut tells me my wife wants to be the hottest chick in the room and thats why she picks em like this... I asked her about that and she got all sheepy... Nothing ruins an A average like a B or a C, ya know!

I think your gut instincts might very well be right. Many women from the time they are in grade school on pick friends that they think are below them in looks, so their thunder can't be stolen. I honestly don't think they're conscious of the fact though. Not all do though, so without knowing your wife I really can't say. You're definitely more informed. I don't see it as a problem since its she who is the main character with the young ladies. Just keep in mind if it makes her happy, then be happy too.

Maybe a protective measure? Not trying to tempt you being the reason and definitely having no fear of losing you to a below average. Insurance so to speak? I am a one on one, totally straight female so even that's a factor that maybe could cloud my view on your problem. I say maybe because I'm pretty open even to things that "aren't" my thing, so it most likely hasn't.

I was never like that myself and was never in the in crowd. I can say this, many girls wouldn't be my friend because of the way I looked.
I pick any friends and men in my life by who they are, not how they looked.

Again, nice seeing you back on the board Baal.

LL

 

[Imagine]

You're a little confused? What exactly is the question?

 

[squallumz]

When my gf and I talked about having a 3some (just in theory, I don't see it developing anywhere) she flat out told me that she doesn't want the other girl to be hotter than her.
Yes, every woman is different and all that but I would reckon that you are right and she wants to be the hotter girl.

sounds like you got your foot in the door to me. you actually discussed it? i say thats a good deal to me. your girl should be the apple of your eye, she wants you and simply wants you to try something new with her that happens to involve another girl in the room. go for it! guys arent the only one who think like that. my wife and i discuss it from time to time, and shes the one that brings it up!

 

[trickster223]

Personally, I think it can't be a good sign if you need someone else to help spice up your sex life. It's obvious people do it because they are bored of having sex with their partner. Tbh, I would be insulted if the woman I was with said can we have a threesome? For one i'd be thinking why? Am I not good enough? And secondly, where would it stop? I honestly believe it's a dangerous road to go down and could easily lead to cheating.

 

[squallumz]

Personally, I think it can't be a good sign if you need someone else to help spice up your sex life. It's obvious people do it because they are bored of having sex with their partner.

not necessarily.

in some cases, yes, it could be a bad thing, but in some other cases, it can be a good thing! it really depends on your relationship.

 

[alexios]

I feel that, as long as it represents a personal preference and isn't degrading to other women, then it is fine.

 

[Sinder]

Personally, I think it can't be a good sign if you need someone else to help spice up your sex life. It's obvious people do it because they are bored of having sex with their partner. Tbh, I would be insulted if the woman I was with said can we have a threesome? For one i'd be thinking why? Am I not good enough? And secondly, where would it stop? I honestly believe it's a dangerous road to go down and could easily lead to cheating.

It could be a dangerous road thats why I don't think it's something that should be jumped right into, I think it should be thoroughly discussed and boundaries should be clear and lines drawn to make everyone feel comfortable.

I know if my bf and I ever do it I want to be the one to pick the girl simply because I want it to be someone that I'm attracted too.

 

[frodo60]

Post a picture of your wife and we'll be the judge of if she's hot.