I need some help. Really.

JaanaRuutu

Official Checked Star Member
I don't like to mix real life with work often but yesterday my life completely changed and I really, really need help.

Some of you know that I've mentioned before that I've been taking care of a sick loved one - well, that loved one was my husband. He can't take care of himself, so for a year I took care of him. He's the guy in all of my videos.

When paying bills, I would send him tthe money, since they were in his name. i thought he was paying them all, but it turns out he was just taking my money and doing god knows what with it. Everything I've earned, he's taken in the name of "bills".

When I found out about this yesterday, my best friends and I were going to have a sit down with him to ask what's happening. While trying to talk, he pulled two knives on us. My friend was able to talk him down right as the cops showed up.

I can't go back to my apartment and I've moved all of my shit into storage. I'm currently staying with my friend on his couch until I can raise enough money [$1,500-$2,000) to get a security deposit, rent, bed, and any other various expenses I will have when moving. I'm getting a divorce and I'm 100% safe, but my life is in shambles and I can't work until i have a new place.

if you like my videos or my cam shows, please consider picking up some clips from my clips4sale or extralunchmoney stores. You can also just send tributes/tips there as well.

I am not making this up and I'll answer any questions you have. Thanks in advance.
 

ApolloBalboa

Was King of the Board for a Day
My god, I'm so sorry to hear that. My heart goes out to you and I hope that things can start to look up for you sooner rather than later.
 
Tell this story to your government and or your own fellow citizens. Put him in a nursing home. Finland has excellent health care / long term health care, yes?

Good luck
 

Philbert

Banned
A bad attitude is not criminal, knife pulling is only a threat not actual violence. A crime like a misdemeanor here...

Very liberal mindset in Finland, arrest would probably be for a minor violation and fixes nothing.

Sorry to say it but, having experienced similar problems with "family"...no leopard has ever been known to change it's spots once they've grown.
Try to learn something from this and move on.

It took something to share your bad judgment with so many people, but this is a very old story ... good luck.
 
A bad attitude is not criminal, knife pulling is only a threat not actual violence.

Threats aren't exactly nothing. That's assault (as opposed to battery), and can often be treated as a felony, especially when a weapon is involved. Information on Finnish law is pretty difficult to find online, but near as I can tell an endangerment charge can come with up to two years in prison. And that would likely be a lesser charge than what might be applicable in this case.
 
Was he charged? I wouldn't think it was a matter of pressing charges (not sure about Finnish law) in most jurisdictions in the United States if an assault takes place between immediate family members or a estranged spouse or boyfriend or girlfriend the person is placed under arrest whether the victim wants to press charges or not.

So was he arrested and charged?
 

JaanaRuutu

Official Checked Star Member
He was arrested but I don't know about charges. i know he's out of police custody now but that's all I know. I'm avoiding him.
 
My name isn't on anything, which is good.

I believe in helping people. If Petra or one of the PTB would like to set up some sort of Paypal account for those of us that would like to contribute something I would be willing to do that.

Just promise us that you aren't really needing it for bail.
 
thats really fucked up its hard to put your trust in anyone but yourself dez dayz... hang in there im sure you will get the help you need soon.
 
Brandishing a weapon to threaten someone is never a good thing. It can easily turn into very serious charges depending on the witness(es) and particular circumstances.

Most people think that you have to actually make contact with someone for it to be assault which is not the case. If a reasonable person believes that injury could occur or reacts in a fearful manner it is assault.
 

Patrick_S

persona non grata
A finnish guy pulling knives? I knew it!!! The stereotype that finn´s favourite things to do is knifefights and drinking vodka were right all along.
 

Harley Spencer

Official Checked Star Member
Jaana, I'm sorry you're going through this. That's really awful.

Philbert, you're being really insensitive. This was her husband for fucks sake. She married the guy. Loved him. Worked with him. Was going to spend her entire life with him. It's kind of a big deal. I'd be absolutely devastated if something like this happened to me. Just because there might be other people in this world who have dealt with similar situations doesn't mean that it should be taken lightly.
 
Jaana glad ur ok, and things didn't went for bad, just be careful in any case, since he pulled knives, u can't trust him, not if he's doing drugs, or has mental issues. I am sure you will get set up soon, you're smart, just be careful, wish ya the best and time is cure for everything, even for bad things like these.
 
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