I need male opinions!

[Ree]

Please, take a break from porn and help me out!

Me and a close male friend have been flirting, kissing etc for months. We haven't had sex though - it just hasn't felt right, for either of us. We're happy waiting until the time is perfect, plus we're such good friends sex related stuff isn't too high on the agenda.

We went to a party last night, where I met a guy who was really cool. We had a drink and a chat for a little while, but it was totally platonic. There was no kissing or even flirting, as his girlfriend was around. My friend went crazy at me, saying he's been hurt before and won't let it happen again, that it's obvious I was doing stuff with the guy, that he's lost all trust in me and loads of other ridiculous things.

We're not a couple, and even if we were, it's completely over the top and way too possessive. Why did he react this way? Does he really feel that strongly about me? Sometimes he seems almost as if he's falling, and other times he's bedhopping so much I think he doesn't want to be with me.

Help! :eek:

 

[jdb67]

It's obvious, he feels a lot stronger about you then you do about him....

Do you have proof that he is bed hopping or is it a ploy to get you jealous???

 

[Peter Gazinya]

He sounds like a chick. Regardless of how many beds he's hopped, he's the jealous accusative type. I'd recommend steering clear of any relations with this guy because he's a


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[member2686]

Not to be rude, but 1) It doesn't seem that you're mature or experienced enough to handle either situation. You've been flirting with and kissing this one guy for months and you've not reached the level of intimacy to have had sex? Why? What's holding you back? HE clearly is interested in you, based on his jealousy. It seems to me that YOU'RE the one manipulating things or dodging issues - either with him or with yourself.

2) Why the HELL would you take this guy to a party and then chat up another guy? That's just inviting problems and quite frankly, IMO, selfish and insensitive.

Again, not to be rude, but you don't seem to have the emotional maturity level that you SHOULD have (well, depending on your age, which we don't know) in dealing with these guys or, for that matter, with any guys.

Get with the guy who clearly likes you and forget about the party boy. As you said, he has a girlfriend. Respect that.

That's MY advice. :2 cents: :hatsoff:

 

[n00bs]

if you were really interested in your friend, you probably would not have hung out with that other guy...parties are a perfect place to make out with ur friends
but it seems like your friend there does like you, i think it is time to knock boots with him and see how it is...bring it to the next level...if it is not right just move on, keep him as a friend and find another guy

 

[theadmanmufc]

Nightfly put it perfectly really.

 

[nerd]

Well, I'd say if he didn't care that much about you, he wouldn't get jealous... he likes you a lot, you just don't realize it. As for not being a couple, maybe he's too shy to ask. And everything else that needs to be said can be found in Nightfly's post.

 

[satyrsam]

How do you feel about him? This is the first question you should ask yourself. I can’t say if he really has strong feelings for you but he’s obviously someone who is possessive and lacks self-confidence. You need to sit down with him and talk to each other about what type of relationship you want between each other.

 

[KungFuDude]

The male ego is quite fragile. I think you should consider that before you make a decision on what You Might do.

 

[mig1791]

You both sound as if you're deliberately driving each other crazy. I would question his bedhopping and jealousy though. He probably wants it both ways. I haven't heard of a guy bedhopping to make a girl jealous before. Maybe flirting with other girls a little but bedhopping no

 

[Ree]

Not to be rude, but 1) It doesn't seem that you're mature or experienced enough to handle either situation. You've been flirting with and kissing this one guy for months and you've not reached the level of intimacy to have had sex? Why? What's holding you back? HE clearly is interested in you, based on his jealousy. It seems to me that YOU'RE the one manipulating things or dodging issues - either with him or with yourself.

2) Why the HELL would you take this guy to a party and then chat up another guy? That's just inviting problems and quite frankly, IMO, selfish and insensitive.

Again, not to be rude, but you don't seem to have the emotional maturity level that you SHOULD have (well, depending on your age, which we don't know) in dealing with these guys or, for that matter, with any guys.

Get with the guy who clearly likes you and forget about the party boy. As you said, he has a girlfriend. Respect that.

That's MY advice. :2 cents: :hatsoff:

I like to think I'm mature enough to handle this, but I've never been in this situation before and my priority is to maintain a wonderful friendship. We've never had sex for various reasons - a couple of times he thought I was too drunk and didn't want to take advantage, it's hard to get privacy as we both live at home etc. Everything seems to be against us.

Re read my post - I did NOT ''chat up'' the guy at the party. We got talking and had a laugh. It was totally innocent, and something my friend does all the time. Women flock to him, and he revels in it. I don't have a problem with it, we're both young, sociable, outgoing people.

Saying that I lack the maturity to deal with any guy is harsh. I'm just shocked and upset by an outburst that was totally out of character, and value opinions on how best to deal with the situation.

Incidentally, he has called me asking me out for coffee tomorrow and is deeply sorry. He doesn't know what came over him.

 

[Ree]

BTW, I don't know for sure that he is bedhopping, but his friends have labelled him a male slag, and he had a girl in his room when I went to his house last month.

 

[member2686]

...We went to a party last night, where I met a guy who was really cool. We had a drink and a chat for a little while, but it was totally platonic. There was no kissing or even flirting, as his girlfriend was around.

But you would have, had his girlfriend NOT been around, would you not? That seems to be what you're saying...

...other times he's bedhopping so much I think he doesn't want to be with me...

This is the image of this non-boyfriend with whom you're kissing and going out, so why now say that he's NOT bedhopping? Again, no offense, but you seem to be terribly confused, emotionally immature, or socially naive.

I hope that it all works out for you and that you can "strain the hairs" from your social/sexual/emotional "soup."

:hatsoff:

 

[Ree]

But you would have, had his girlfriend NOT been around, would you not? That seems to be what you're saying...

Things might have got flirty, I'm naturally flirtatious. Though he may not have been attracted to me in the slighest, so wouldn't want to flirt even if he was completely single.


This is the image of this non-boyfriend with whom you're kissing and going out, so why now say that he's NOT bedhopping? Again, no offense, but you seem to be terribly confused, emotionally immature, or socially naive.

I hope that it all works out for you and that you can "strain the hairs" from your social/sexual/emotional "soup."

:hatsoff:

I haven't said he's not bedhopping, I said I don't know for sure that he is - I just hear that he has girls round. No one will know for sure if he sleeps with them or not unless they sit in his room and watch!

 

[D-rock]

Some men are just idiots. If he is starting to act like that I would seriously question if I would ever want any type of relationship with him. If he got this jealous at you for something like this, it would make me wonder what else he is going to think or do later.

I also don't see anything wrong with not having sex if it isn't right for you. Unless, I'm really missing something, I don't get where people would get the idea that you are not being mature here. The idea that as soon as you start flirting or kissing you need to jump in the sack with that person is just insanely dumb to me. Also the idea that once you’re in a relationship you shouldn't talk to anybody else of the other sex is pretty ridiculous. Perhaps this just justified your position in not making the choice to take it to the next level. If this happened perhaps it was for the best you didn't take it further.

 

[cuntlover]

I haven't said he's not bedhopping, I said I don't know for sure that he is - I just hear that he has girls round. No one will know for sure if he sleeps with them or not unless they sit in his room and watch!

Listen,just make it clear to Im that you are friends only and that if he ever becomes your boyfriend one day that you won't accept that kind of behavior.He will ethier have to trust you and beleive in you or there will be no relationship. Has far has i'm concern, you're not a couple so He should mind his own business and if he does care,take a long look in the mirror and say to himself that, it's not the way he's going to win you over by acting like a jerk.He should make a move and worry more about the way he fells and what he should do about it rather then having hissy fit. You seem like a nice person so make it clear to Im and go directly to the point. Good luck
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[2sexy4u]

call dr. laura

 

[member2686]

LOL! How about "Read 'Teenie Bopper 17'" magazine or whatever they're called these days. "Teen Cosmo" or whatever. This is fucking ridiculous...

"Like, guys, can you tell me, like, ummm, what do I do if, like, umm, you know, this boy I like and make out with, ummm...well.. What if he like sort of gets jealous if I, you know, sort of flirt around with another boy at a party, but totally don't, you know, DO ANYTHING with him cuz his g/f's there, but this boy I make out with is there too and he sees me with the other boy?"

LOL Fucking ridiculous... :2 cents:

:1orglaugh :thefinger

call dr. laura

 

[Xander00]

This seems to be a great example of a ditsy cock-tease with poor common sense
:2 cents:

 

[calpoon]

This seems to be a great example of a ditsy cock-tease with poor common sense
:2 cents:

just because she makes out with a guy and then doesn't have sex with him, that makes her a tease? that sounds like the thinking of a date rapist to me. hey guess what, a persons body is there own, they have the right to do anything or not have anything done with it that they choose. and nothing gives anyone else the right to violate that choice. why don't you check your testosterone at the door before you go raggin on other people.