I may have to give up porn!

[Legzman]

Not that I want to or think it's bad (well not to watch anyway). I met a really cute girl, but she's really religious and I've somehow managed not to screw up so far. But if she sees the horrible, decadent, sometimes borderline gay stuff on my harddrive(s).... forget about it. A part of me wants to screw it up just to keep the porn.
I'm screwed aren't I?

If she can't accept porn then she can't accept who you are plain and simple. Keep the porn hidden from her best you can, at least till you nail her a few times. When she finds out about it and she doesn't like it kick her ass to the curb. If she accepts it then win for you :glugglug:

 

[biomech]

I agree with a lot of these guys, don't sacrifice who you are.
But if you have trouble with women, hide the porn. Real ass is better then tv ass.

 

[Elwood70]

You don't have to give up anything.

 

[jamrak]

Why don't you think that this is she, who has to change herself? That she has to give up her idiotic religion, and that she has to become more lustful and open-minded to be with you? :dunno:

 

[Breasts_R_Best]

She should accept you for who you are, if she can't do that, keep looking.

 

[Ashleigh]

Where is the compromise in all of this? How about delete your porn, but if you feel the urge in the future to have a quick wank, just find something online? Don't stop your porn enjoyment, but maybe just get rid of the stuff that she might find excessive? I mean if you like this girl, and she's worth giving this stuff up for (and she must be if you're coming here to a porn forum to admit to all the porn lovers that you found a girl you'd give it up for) then you should probably go for it. She must be a special girl, no? And the people you care about in life ARE more important than a hobby, so my advice is to delete the porn, go out with the girl and make it work, but in your private time, still enjoy the porn and yourself!

 

[bustybbwlover]

you're fucked, and not in the good way. good luck!

 

[Skyraider22]

Well you know who you are be yourself but if you want to let porn go for her and you feel that strong about it you know what you have to do.:dunno:I'm just saying.

 

[D-rock]

I agree with the people warning you against being something your not just to get a woman. Usually it ends up bad at some point. Maybe you could take more time so that she could learn more about you and then you could both go from there. Maybe you could even confess some stuff to her and see how she feels and tell her You Might be willing to compromise on it or give it up if she really dislikes it that much.

I can't tell anybody else how important anybody else is to them, but if in the end you feel she is that important to you I wouldn't blame you for giving up something You Might really like. Only you can make that decision.

 

[Galactic]

Am I the only one who finds it ironic that he's seeing this ultra religious girl, meanwhile he has an avatar of a devil fucking a penguin...which could resemble a nun? :1orglaugh

This sounds like you're going to have to act like someone you are not in order to keep this girl happy. I'm no Dr.Fill, but something tells me it won't last long if that's the case.

Kind of what I was thinking too......to the OP, how did you get with this girl in the first place? You guys are obviously (to us anyway) very different.....if you are putting on a charade, prepare for it to come crashing down my friend.....that shit never works out in the long run.

 

[Evil]

I am sorry but the "borderline gay" stuff is so funny lol....:rofl: sorry for laughing at it....lol :rofl:

That's ok, it's funny to me too, sometimes I'm like, 'what the fuck am I watching?'

I guess she has never had sex, correct?

so she says, I don't really care though as long as my dick doesn't rot off or I fall in.

So it starts with Porn... What next? Rock Music? The Simpsons? "Sinful" Books? As Skechers said: Don't pretend you're someone else...

Porn's my only secret. I'm pretty open about being a metal head, if it means anything I don't like her music either. But this came up and being a proper man, I lied my ass off about it. I'll probably sell the nude dolls... um, action figures as well. I'm keeping my sketches though, it's not porn if it's art dammit!

Kind of what I was thinking too......to the OP, how did you get with this girl in the first place? You guys are obviously (to us anyway) very different.....if you are putting on a charade, prepare for it to come crashing down my friend.....that shit never works out in the long run.

...work, I was my normal brooding/sarcastic self. Hell she even knows I'm an atheist (she's praying for me though I told her not to).


This may not pan out in the end (expect me back with a vengeance after the divorce, j/k) but I think this probably needs to be done, I'm probably never going to meet a nice girl to settle down with that accepts my granny porn collection. And I'm too dull for the wild ones.

 

[calpoon]

I agree with a lot of these guys, don't sacrifice who you are.
But if you have trouble with women, hide the porn. Real ass is better then tv ass.

Best Answer- Chosen by Calpoon

 

[Gordar]

Congratz on finding a gf, I hope you'll have a long & good relationship.

I agree with a lot of these guys, don't sacrifice who you are.
But if you have trouble with women, hide the porn. Real ass is better then tv ass.

I can only partly agree with this.

Hiding something essentially means you're being dishonest about it. I do agree with the part which states that you shouldn't change yourself.

Reading your initial post I get the feeling you don't know her very well yet and you could use that to your advantage.

Everyone 'sins' (I put that between ' ', because they're only sins if you believe them to be so, but that's an entirely different discussion...) & everyone probably includes your gf. Ask her what kind of sins she has committed in the past and still commits these days. Sins she won't/can't give up even though she knows they're 'wrong'.

After she confesses to you she'll probably ask you a similar/the same question (she'll probably understand that you're trying to direct the discussion toward a certain direction). Now I suggest you're honest but tactful. Don't admit you've got X gb of porn on your pc, but make up a nice sentence involving the sin lust (I'll leave that one up to you).

If she's disgusted with it, then she's probably not the right person for you...

On a side note, a lot of Christians (reformed, Catholic, probably Anglicans as well) have a secret stash of porn, so she might not be as disgusted with it as you think right now...

 

[hedonis]

If you have to give up ANYTHING that you like to be part of a relationship, then that relationship is going to have serious problems right from the start.

We don't respond well over time to having our freedoms and personalities crushed under someone's boot- no matter how cute they are.


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