I've found that treating the lady like a normal person, instead of putting the pussy on a pedestal works best for me. Treat her like a normal human being, talk to her about her and your interests (I am sure you will find something in common), current events (best stay away from touchy subjects like politics at first, though), or even something simple like the weather. Listen to what she says and interact with that - in other words, talk with her, rather thank talk to her.