How old is too old...

[Senor_Cheese35]

to still be a virgin?

I think if you're 21 or over, and not religious or waiting for 'love' - than its too old.
If you are over 21 and still have not got laid - then its time to find a girl....
fast!

 

[Aegis]

I think that people should focus less on their age, and more on doing what they feel is right for them.

 

[Perilypos]

I think that people should focus less on their age, and more on doing what they feel is right for them.

The same opinion, my friend! :hatsoff:

 

[Member2019]

The timing is funny ...

I just made a post over the Swingers thread ...
http://board.freeones.com/showthread.php?p=978624
Which included this point ...

I guess the key point is too many young men and women focus on "what they aren't getting." Young men and women should focus on "enjoying what they have," but ONLY what they feel comfortable with. Save everything else for a more dedicated lover. God knows men and women harm each (emotionally and somtimes physically) other because of their naivity, immaturity and countless other, deep and erratic emotions when they are new, uncontrolled and otherwise unchecked. If you have maturity, control and understanding, then it's not an issue.

One thing I understood from the moment I started dating was that I would never pressure anyone into what they didn't want to do. Even to this day, I won't even make love to my wife when she has a little bit of alcohol. People say I don't need to worry. But the reality is that I really don't want someone who doesn't consciencely want me at that moment. Same deal when I was young. I wish parents and teachers would teach this instead of other non-sense, like "you're not ready" or countless other things. It's about knowing what you can and can't deal with more than anything.

With one technical exception, I was a virgin -- never inserted -- until the 3rd night after my wedding -- just after I turned 24.

I'm glad I held off because, as I predicted, I couldn't handle intercourse with someone I didn't feel safe with. The prediction came from when I became very vunerable when receiving a blowjob -- and didn't allow a woman to do such until I had been with her several weeks. And, unfortunately, that "technicality" with that one, prior lover to my wife that took my member and put it in her -- sealing the fate of our relationship to doom.

I'm sorry to bash the originator of this thread, but the worst thing you can do is pressure people into making them feel inadequate, left behind or otherwise "not normal." Furthermore, the suggestion that there are no reasons other religion or some other moral issues not to be a virgin are also a great part of the problem.

If people focused on having (responsible) fun instead of "sexual milestones," there would be a lot more people making love, and a lot less unchecked emotion and, in some cases, violence. Envy, judgement and countless other "dislike" I see are the sins of this world. When people wake up to that, we'll have less hatred and more men and women engaged in pleasure.

Not just having intercourse for whatever stupid reasons others judge you on.

 

[Roughneck]

Ahhh, yes - how mature is the discussion on "by what age should someone lose their virginity".

I'm overwhelmed by the irony....


cheers,

 

[Dro50]

Well lets pretend for sake of interesting conversation that this is a mature subject to discuss. With that said..In the United States the legal age for being able to fuck is 18. Yet the amount of minors having sex with each other and unfortunately with adults seems to grow from it's substantial numbers each year. So as a thought experiment we shall create BOB. BOB is 18, non-religious, straight, masturbates, socializes with women on a daily basis, is not interested in whores, doesn't see marriage as the threshhold for vaginal penetration, Isn't picky or shallow about the women he's attracted to and seems normal in almost every other way. So assuming BOB doesn't wanna break the law by having sex with a minor, doesn't go after girls who have boyfriends, girls who are married, girls who are mentally or physically challenged, girls who live outside his county and wouldn't date anyone over the age of 28, that leaves ten generations of females minus the women who do not qualify. Geographic location will play a big part as well due to the fact that some towns have a greater ratio of men compared to women or are places where religion or culture lessens the chance of women even having relationship with men even more.
The point I'm trying to make here is that, numerically speaking, it isn't as easy as we think for someone to lose there virginty if there arevariables such as these hindering the chance of even meeting a girl that would be in range.
And thats leaving out a lot!!!!!!!! The whole courting thing, physical attraction, personalities, first impressions, time of month, time of day, wealth class, associations and all the little things people throw in make it increasingly difficult for people to lose there virginities.
How old is too old.....I'd say 30 if you are BOB.

 

[Member2019]

In the United States the legal age for being able to fuck is 18.

No, what gave you that idea? In the US, many states do not allow a person of majority of have sex with a person of minority -- sometimes as low as 16 or even 14, depending on the state. Although many states have now raised it to the age of majority, to match most other states, in the last few decades.

Despite the ignorance of many of its citizens, the contempt shown by its media and the otherwise under-appreciated, demonized and insolent nature that is constantly applied, the United States were and still are a union of autonomous states -- from the electoral to the legal.

Yet the amount of minors having sex with each other and unfortunately with adults seems to grow from it's substantial numbers each year.

No, that is actually false.

In the US, sex among minors are actually down over the last 10-15 years (depending on the study). Yes, sex among those active are up, but the percentage of minors who are actually sexually active are down, and have been decreasing over the last 10-15 yeras. The number of STDs flowing about, the proliferation of this information in state-sactioned sexual education and related factors have resulted in this.

As far as sex between adults and minors in the US, that too is down, greatly. The prosecution and, more directly, public notice and tracking of such sex offenders has really helped combat the problem. The problem has always been there, but it's now far better and more widely understood and contained. It still happens, but it is less likely to happen now than it was just a decade or two ago.

Just because the media reports something more now doesn't mean it actually happens more now.

 

[Iwillnever]

40 years old for sure.

 

[jumbo_jim]

The age will vary on the person. Some people mature younger and can handle the pressure some people as they grow older will feel the time is right.

So in short the answer is it depends.

 

[smallville206]

It really doesn't concern me if someone is still a virgin at a late age. Sure if they just have no luck with the opposite sex I feel a little sorry for them, but if it's by their own personal choice, I applaud their willpower.

 

[Member2019]

Know oneself

It really doesn't concern me if someone is still a virgin at a late age. Sure if they just have no luck with the opposite sex I feel a little sorry for them, but if it's by their own personal choice, I applaud their willpower.

I don't really applaud it, I think it's just what they think is best for them -- and they follow it. That's good. That's knowing oneself. It's very difficult to gage ones' maturity and/or reaction.

But giving into sex -- partially or full -- shouldn't be seen as a life changing or "required saving" event like it is.

I used to take pride in being a 3 sport "jock" (although I was easily a "geek" too), and not going past 1st base. But in reality, the thin blonde pieces of ass I dated were trophies that never turned me on, something I didn't realize until later. Once I realized I loved full figured brunettes, that went out the window -- and I really, really enjoyed my life.

I saved many things for my partners until we were with each other a long time, and key things for my wife. Not because I had willpower, but because they required a level of comfort and "feeling safe" for myself. I think that's the most crucial part of "saving yourself" -- not so much "saving yourself" for someone, but "saving yourself from yourself."

From the confused, vunerable, "won't know how to react/handle" self. A lot of women, and men too, get abused -- emotionally, verbally and even physically -- from people who cannot handle aspects of their deeper intimacy, especially when they are newly exposed to it. The only woman before my wife who put me inside of her before I realized what she was doing ended up hurting me, including physically.

Luckily for me my overflow of emotion was deep depression and crying. And thank God she realized she went beyond her own, selfish interests and she was at fault too (even if it took her a few minutes).

 

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