Honesty, like a breath of fresh air

[meesterperfect]

Hi everybody!
So i went out with a girl for the second time tonight.
It went the same as the first, after some time together alot of kissing.
Then I may have made a mistake when she asked what do I want to do.
I said can we go back to your house (she lives with her sister and we were near her house).
she said we cant.
I live pretty far away from where we were, I then said well I'll go home but first we'll drop you off.
well she changed at that point and got quiet, of course i said whats wrong but she said "nothing" so i left it at that.

now i got home called her and she told me this:
she has a serious boyfriend in europe and she plans on marrying him someday.
so she doesnt want romance or "carinos" with anybody, but she wants a sex partner(me) and nothing more.
Im bummed about the boyfriend and the fact that i could be having sex with her now instead of writing this post but then again i feel good about her honesty, really good actually.
I wish more girls here were like that.
I think I can give her what she wants.

 

[DJCowboy]

That's all I want right now! No relationship!! God damnit you lucky SOB...

 

[titsrock]

How "liberal" of you Meester! :thumbsup:

Gee, 2 adults having safe sex for pleasure....whatever will the world come too

((Can we get a better pic of her? I have perfect vision but I really can't make out what she looks like))

 

[Ace Bandage]

So she wants to fuck somebody while her boyfriend is gone? Sounds like a real keeper to me. Maybe he'll stab you in the throat when he gets back. Congratulations, you're officially "the other guy." I hope you sleep well at night...

 

[meesterperfect]

So she wants to fuck somebody while her boyfriend is gone? Sounds like a real keeper to me. Maybe he'll stab you in the throat when he gets back. Congratulations, you're officially "the other guy." I hope you sleep well at night...

no tits i cant make the pic bigger.
she's just a hot black chic from the coast.

c'mon AR
the guy comes here like once a year, to him shes probably just his colombian fuck and he's probably banging chics over there too.
there is a saying here "relationships far away, happy are all 4".

 

[jod0565]

Just keep your bacon wrapped.

 

[Ace Bandage]

It doesn't matter to me; I'm not your moral compass. Do whatever the fuck you want. You don't need my permission. I just can't stand infidelity, nor do I tolerate it. Some of us have stricter morals, but this doesn't mean I'm right or you're wrong. It just means we have differing opinions on this subject.

 

[titsrock]

Morality means a guaranteed life of misery.

According to Meester's writeup, it doesn't sound like a strong bond of love is holding the chick and BF together...fwiw. Infidelity is probably an overstatement in this case :dunno:

 

[meesterperfect]

tonights the night.

 

[JayJohn85]

Man before you all start bleeding your hearts out.....I would wager hes fucking his way across half of europe....Long distance shit what a recipe for disaster.

 

[whoremaker]

i feel good about her honesty, really good actually.

What!?! Are you fucking serious? Her honesty? The bitch is screwing around on her fiance, and you applaud her honesty? Get real! And on top of it, you're cool with being the douchebag "other guy?" Have some respect for yourself, man. Cheating is bullshit. Unless they're in an open relationship and he's cool with his lady getting her meat pounded, then you are both shitting all over each other's consciences and being total assholes.

Sorry to be severe, but you brought it up, and that's my response. Find a chick who is actually free to have fun. Respect yourself enough to have a chick, even if she is just a fuck buddy, who is doing you for you and not using your cock as a stand-in for the guy she really wishes she was fucking at the moment. Whores are cool and all, but not not when they're also scheming cunts.

 

[meesterperfect]

Man before you all start bleeding your hearts out.....I would wager hes fucking his way across half of europe....Long distance shit what a recipe for disaster.

thats probably true.

What!?! Are you fucking serious? Her honesty? The bitch is screwing around on her fiance, and you applaud her honesty? Get real! And on top of it, you're cool with being the douchebag "other guy?" Have some respect for yourself, man. Cheating is bullshit. Unless they're in an open relationship and he's cool with his lady getting her meat pounded, then you are both shitting all over each other's consciences and being total assholes.

Sorry to be severe, but you brought it up, and that's my response. Find a chick who is actually free to have fun. Respect yourself enough to have a chick, even if she is just a fuck buddy, who is doing you for you and not using your cock as a stand-in for the guy she really wishes she was fucking at the moment. Whores are cool and all, but not not when they're also scheming cunts.

i respect your response, but man i'm in colombia, the cheating capital of the world.
here i am a novelty, a rarity.
gringo in good shape, not all white, pale or old and goofy and obviously not in colombia just hunting pussy.
what am i gonna do say no? girls are always comin and going here, thats the way it is, they like sex.
If you seen her ass I doubt you say no., i dont mean that disrespectfully towards her, but she's hot.
Ive been the other guy a hundred times, i know alot of the chics ive been with have boyfreinds, and most of those boyfriends are cheatin self centered mamas boys....this is just one of the few that was up front about it.
The last thing I'm worrying about right now is this guy in europe.

 

[JayJohn85]

Well unless its your wife that is......But two singletons even engaged I still stand by what I said. Its about age too no offense, Getting married when your a bit older and more sensible, And want the same things outta life= Probably can stand most tests to the relationship.

But outside of that. Long distance shit= Fail.

PS> Then you have of course open relationships and other people that obviously dont believe in monogamy.

PSS> Btw the fact you've stated she has been up front about it suggests to me that they have come to some sorta agreement on the issue. So yea lucky you mofo you got a ideal arrangement unless you do something stupid like fall for her.

 

[meesterperfect]

Well unless its your wife that is......But two singletons even engaged I still stand by what I said. Its about age too no offense, Getting married when your a bit older and more sensible, And want the same things outta life= Probably can stand most tests to the relationship.

But outside of that. Long distance shit= Fail.

PS> Then you have of course open relationships and other people that obviously dont believe in monogamy.

PSS> Btw the fact you've stated she has been up front about it suggests to me that they have come to some sorta agreement on the issue. So yea lucky you mofo you got a ideal arrangement unless you do something stupid like fall for her.

yeah i get the impression he knows,
and i like her but theres a million women here, so i'm ok.
well i'm gone.
for the record, married women, i dont get involved with.

 

[Jagger69]

If all you wanna do is fuck, then go for it. Otherwise, I'd bail out.

I may sound really old-fashioned here but sex with women who only want sex is very empty from my experience. If there isn't at least some sort of emotional bond, it's the vaginal/penile equivalent of masturbation....using her pussy instead of your hand. In fact, regular masturbation is probably better. You don't have to buy your hand dinner nor drive it home in the morning.

Glad I've been married so long....I wouldn't know how to be single again. Good luck, my friend.

 

[D-rock]

So she cheating on somebody else with you, just now tells you, and you are admiring her supposed honesty. You do see the irony of it, don't you?

 

[Jack Davenport]

She is Paisita?

From my experience, Medellin chicks are a little more promiscuous than women from other areas of the country.

I may be wrong about that, but it seems that way.

 

[meesterperfect]

If all you wanna do is fuck, then go for it. Otherwise, I'd bail out.

I may sound really old-fashioned here but sex with women who only want sex is very empty from my experience. If there isn't at least some sort of emotional bond, it's the vaginal/penile equivalent of masturbation....using her pussy instead of your hand. In fact, regular masturbation is probably better. You don't have to buy your hand dinner nor drive it home in the morning.

Glad I've been married so long....I wouldn't know how to be single again. Good luck, my friend.

ok jag, i hear ya, but I'm not marrying the girl, i'm just having sex with her.
for me, its just really goood sex, not empty, just fun.

So she cheating on somebody else with you, just now tells you, and you are admiring her supposed honesty. You do see the irony of it, don't you?

I didnt think this would turn into a debate on morality.
I'm happy that she was honest about it with me. I really dont care about the clown in europe, thats not my problem. So no, I see no irony.
Where I'm at, they almost all have little skinny boyfriends who never move out of there moms house. the only concern i have about them is them shooting me, thats why i'm discreet.their possible hurt feelings is not on my list.
Also, thats the M.O. here people dont break up with their bf/gf until theyve found a replacement.
Its not like every girl I'm with has a BF, but sometimes I know they do.
Its not the states where the women are the bosses in relationships.

She is Paisita?

From my experience, Medellin chicks are a little more promiscuous than women from other areas of the country.

I may be wrong about that, but it seems that way.

yeah shes paisa, but not from the city, she's just a sexy little black girl from the north.
beats sex with a banana or a cucumber.

 

[meesterperfect]

bumping this thread to maybe help someone in a similar situation in the future, and to gloat.

some said that what i was doing was wrong.
Well, at this point the euro guy is history, the girl (in my avatar) is totally into me, and we are happy.
it may not be forever, it might, but its all good now.
So had I been a nice guy and worried about the bf or some moral standard, I'd be thinking about her and wankin it.
I did what i did, and now all fell into place.

I guess my advice, don't worry about if the woman has a boyfriend.
do whats best for you, if you want it, go get it.
Husband? thats a bit different, husband with children, very different, now your actions can affect a childs whole life.
Chicks with boyfriends - fair game.

 

[rock hard]

Gratz on being happy bro...too much unhappiness in the world, so this is a good thing :thumbsup:

the girl (in my avatar) is totally into me, and we are happy.
it may not be forever, it might, but its all good now.

I guess my advice, don't worry about if the woman has a boyfriend.
do whats best for you, if you want it, go get it.
Husband? thats a bit different, husband with children, very different, now your actions can affect a childs whole life.
Chicks with boyfriends - fair game.

Now you're the boyfriend......and from what you have said in this thread, you're not the only swinging dick in the country that goes by the above philosophy.....and she has done it before.

Stay happy bro :glugglug: