For Harley Spencer:
Let me ask you something because you hit some things right, but I forgot to mention on part. She did say it would be fun, not like a date. But we agreed to see one band, I was on a trip to Virgina and I had to cancel 2 days before. She still went took some pictures. She put them on facebook and we kind of talked on facebook about the night. We talked about other bands that was cool like Bury Your Dead. I was still away so I invited her to see another band, but I sent it on facebook, she never got back with me on that. So when the time came I invited her again 2 days before the show on facebook not personally. She did not make it to the show, and did not get back with me. 3 days later on facebook she posted she was going to see another band and if anyone wants to come out and see her act goofy come on down. I was at work so I could not make it. Now I am not saying she was asking me personally to come down, she might have been referring to another guy. Should I still keep trying, there is a friends band that is playing in 2 weeks. Should I invite her to it? If so facebook or personally? I don't want to go in her store and make her feel uncomfortable what do you think. Since you have done this before. Yeah I know stupid question, but she is worth it if she might like me.
Not to hijack the question intended to Harley, but I just wanted to ask while reading your recent post... how did you two become facebook friends out of curiosity?
Besides all the band talk and what not, have you all ever actually talked about anything else? Yeah, it's a great ice breaker or small talk (whatever you want to call it), but there's surely got to be more outside that for things to potentially (hypothetically) flourish - otherwise, it's friends forever or acquaintances at best. Regardless of what happens - just keep your friendly cool - never criticize/demean the other as everyone else echoed in the previous replies. You can go ahead and vent off to your close friends or places like this if you'd like...
p.s. tracking and keeping tabs of somebody's social life media (e.g. facebook in this instance) is a surefire way to la-la (crazy) land with yourself... you'll end up making too many assumptions... miscalculated at best of who that person really might be... obviously you're still interested/infatuated (lightly put) about her - that said, everybody has their own boundaries and level of comfort... do you know any of her friends by chance to get some additional insight?
Honestly, there are too many variables on giving full-on advice... from what you mentioned however, many of the member responses here were from either pattern recognition and/or experience... only you in the end have to go with the (your gut) instinct... that's of course after reading some of the comments... no two people are textbook cases; to close on that thought.
Heck, you seem to enjoy these concerts - so just go do that... and who fucking knows,
You Might actually come across (by chance and luck) another person you like - planning and calculating things to pick and win a person over become more frustrating than anything - as cliche as it is in such a romantic topic as this, good things happen when you least expect it...
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