Fuck Buddy???
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Ace Bandage
The one and only.
I had this situation once and it didn't end well. An ex and I tried this for awhile. Then I discovered she was also "seeing" someone else at the same time. Even though we weren't dating, there was still an emotional attachment regardless. I was pissed off. In fact, the last words I ever said to her were something along the lines of, "I hope you have a miserable life, bitch" - certainly not my proudest moment. I haven't seen her since...
Pretty self-explanatory here...fuck her and flee thats it...just keep her close enough to where the pussy is virtually on-call
Wow!!! How far off base are you??? All I have is fuck buddies and have been doing it for years.
Seems to me a perspective like yours suggests you never understood the concept of a fuck buddy.
It's pretty fucking simple...you both stipulate to a NSA relationship and you just hook up for fucking period. It's really that fucking simple.
The ONLY way you fuck that up is if you don't fully understand or accept what the fuck NSA means and entails.
I honestly doubt you know anything about the subject as great sex in a relationship is the easy part...it's when two people have to mix the other relationship shit into it that it sours. That's the whole purpose of having NSA sex is to not "sour" a great sex relationship with committed relationship shit.
Never had a "fuck buddy" because I knew one of us would end up getting attached and then possibly hurt. Might as well just date. Pretty much the same thing, I guess.
As long as you both establish it is no strings attached, BEFORE you start fucking like rabbits, it's all good. But don't go fucking her and then say..."Oh...I thought the strings were not attached" after she starts falling for you, or vise versa.
Hot Mega knows how to roll. Listen to him.
Hot Mega knows how to roll. Listen to him.
hmmmm...Thanks a lot for the advice bro...something that i should definitely take into consideration on my little side excursions, cause even though i am fucking my ex-s best friend i still value the friendship that i have w./ my Ex (P.S. It was a mutual break up which is why i still talk/am cool with my Ex)
Can't we just get along???? I think you guys should hug it out =P
I've had the same fuck buddy for 7 years. I've had girlfriends and shes had boyfriends thru the years but that has not stopped us from hooking up every so often. We're both single now so the sex is more frequent and since there are no strings its as hot and dirty as ever. I feel like calling her now
In the future, please refer to the following:
That is the best thing in the world.
I've had a couple fuck buddies through the years and they are great for as long as they last. Something eventually ends up happening, either they end up falling or they get BF's and don't want to have any ties to their fuck buddy. The only thing I can say is enjoy the situation and stay in touch even after you go to school. Who knows there may be some pussy waiting for you during breaks. Play it by ear, enjoy the ride and see what happens.
You thought you had a "fuck buddy" but apparently you unknowingly had a limited liability b/f-g/f relationship. Two different things.
Are you sure you want a "fuck buddy" or as stated above, a limited liability b/f-g/f relationship?
Like I said before, a "fuck buddy" relationship (or ANY relationship for that matter) isn't difficult at all if you understand, accept and live up to the terms of it.
You can't be doing stuff with them that fosters feelings that make you care about what they're doing....This is the harsh reality, you can't be hanging out on the phone getting into what they've been up to, hanging out at the movies and all that stuff...I mean, you can but it's just not conducive to a simple relationship based solely on fucking. In actuality, that's just a limited liability b/f-g/f relationship.
I had chicks that I just hooked up with for an occasional bite to eat and sex here and there but we weren't committed. Those weren't really fuck buddies we were just cheating on the people we were with. The first, official NSA relationship I had started off with me being single and meeting a chick at a dance club. We had a good time that night, went out to dinner a couple of times and eventually were having sex in about a week. I really liked her...One night she came over and after a second or two she obviously seem like she had something on her mind...I asked her what was wrong and she asks, can we talk? (Of course I'm thinking she's ready to come with the whole how do I feel about her, are we b/f & g/f mumbo jumbo chicks normally hit you with after awhile....I says to her, yeah..what's up?)
But she says to me in pretty frank terms, I like you allot but I get the feeling you're trying to steer this into a serious relationship. I was like this
on the outside but on the inside I was like I was saying to myself, we have incredible sex, you're gorgeous with one of the best personalities I've ever met...DUH!!! She goes on to say I just finished school and started this new job and I need to focus on that....it seems like you want a relationship and I just want the sex right now. In my mind my jaw hit the fucking floor...I literally couldn't believe what I was hearing...Even though it wasn't a rejection that was about as close to feeling rejected as I've ever felt.
I was pretty stunned (in fact for a few days I was) but I asked her so what's up now? She says, well I want to have sex with you but not a relationship...like an NSA. I had heard NSA before but that was the first time I ever heard a chick verbally say it. I agreed...we had sex that night....and from there...about a few days later after not speaking...she sent me a text asking what was I up to on Sat....I responded with, not much...what's up....She says...I need to feel you or something (or something like that) can I come over...I said hell yeah....and my first official NSA relationship was born.
We didn't spend time calling each other discussing our day or going out dinner or none of that stuff...the only quality time we spent was between the sheets and it worked out fine.
Point is as long as you're frank and up front about the terms and can honestly divorce yourself from their business...I don't see how you can screw it up.
It helped in that particular case that explained to me her circumstances and I could completely understand them.:2 cents:
Risky Business
It is... I've had several, and in my experience it's great while it lasts, but usually one person ends up liking the other more, and it will cause a problem in the long run... but it's great until that point.
Spleen
Banned?
Oh yeah? And how many times does the female envolved end up falling deeper into the relationship and ruining it? 99.9% of the time.
No. I would say 100 pct. of the time when you don't spell out the nature of the relationship and agree to it ahead of time.
If you or the chick can't live up to what you agree to who's fault is that? The concept of fuck buddyism or you two for not being able to live by the terms of an agreement??
Like I said before, if you're going to try and do other shit with them, hang out on the phone with them, etc. guess what? You don't just have a fuck buddy...you have a buddy you're fucking...and of course feelings may get involved.
I don't know how it is where you live but where I live there is no shortage of hot chicks, who don't want committed relationships but just good dick...Again I ask, how can you fuck that up???
As best I can tell many of these chicks went through screw guys...I'll get off with chicks phase then realized two things...they're not lesbos and true lesbos can be more psychotic than men. And of the two, sex only relationships are better (easier) with men...now they're back to dick.
I think that right there is the key to having a successful NSA or Fuck Buddy Relationship...as long as everything is understood and nothing is broken it should work...but it gets tough when emotions start getting involved...And once that happens.. I think that is my call to leave and end it ANDDD it defeats the whole purpose of having a NSA relationship
