Emotional connections

[wigster]

So today as i dream away, i was thinking about something that has been bothering me alot lately. I've found that i make emotional connections with people that i don't know, sometimes online, but also in real life. I consider people as friends even though i don't know them in person.

Like here for example, there are some people that i like and feel connected too, and i just don't understand why. Maybe it's physiological, maybe i wish i have there lifestyle, or could be like them in someway.

I was just wondering if anyone has had the same experiences as me, or if you think i'm just completely nuts, or if you have any opinions on the subject.

 

[ChefChiTown]

Talking to someone online isn't all that different than talking to someone face-to-face. Obviously there are differences, but other than the fact that you aren't 5 feet away from the person you are talking to, the differences are slight.

I don't think there's anything wrong with you for feeling an emotional connection to people you don't 100% know. I think that people put too much emphasis on physically seeing somebody, in order to be able to connect with them. Personally, I'd rather be friends with someone that I've never seen before, but shared an emotional connection with than somebody that I can see anytime I want to, but share no common interest with what-so-ever.

The most stable way to keep a relationship together, whether it be friendly or romantic, is to have an emotional connection with that person and share similar interests. You don't have to be in the same room to accomplish that.

There are certain people on this board, for example, that when I talk to them, I think, "I bet it would be fun to hang out with him/her". I think everybody thinks that way, so what's so weird about it? :dunno: Some sort of general connection is sparked, for whatever reason, then you start feeling out eachother's personalities and end up considering them to be a friend. I don't think there's anything uncommon in that scenario.

:2 cents:

 

[jibbijib]

I am secretly in love with Chef and it breaks my heart every time he's not online.


(shhh don't tell him)



Lol, In all seriousness, I actually feel the same way. Essentially this is a social connection that we all have. People express themselves as they see themselves on here, so nothing can get more real. Except for those who fake being a woman or man. But even then, they are being who they really want to be. It's leaves open the avenues for freindship building and trust building. Words are thoughts expressed, and then words read are turned into thoughts again. So essentially it's like were all sittin down havin a chat.

This is probably the easiest way to have a social gathering without objectification, and it makes people more open to new friends. Of course there's some that are objective, but that's how they are.

I don't find anything wrong with it. Otherwise, without this, you may not have met so many people with the same fantasies or beliefs abotu anything. This opens up a world of new people, so why not?

 

[senob44]

I totally agree with you guys. I don't think there is anything wrong with feeling an emotional connection with folks you talk to online. I've got good friends on here for instance that I would love to meet someday, but even if I don't ever meet them I still trust them a lot just from the things I have talked with them about.

Even just seeing that you have views in common with someone can spark a sort of kinship feeling. Then there is the whole internet dating scene where you can really get to know someone without ever being face to face. Of course with anything online, there is the risk that they are perporting to being someone or something totally contradictory to what they would have you believe. But you even run into that type of thing in real life with "fake" people who put on facades to gain your trust.

I think feeling some emotional connection to people you come across online is only human in this day and age.

 

[young_guns]

So today as i dream away, i was thinking about something that has been bothering me alot lately. I've found that i make emotional connections with people that i don't know, sometimes online, but also in real life. I consider people as friends even though i don't know them in person.

Like here for example, there are some people that i like and feel connected too, and i just don't understand why. Maybe it's physiological, maybe i wish i have there lifestyle, or could be like them in someway.

I was just wondering if anyone has had the same experiences as me, or if you think i'm just completely nuts, or if you have any opinions on the subject.

nothing wrong...i agree

 

[Dawn]

Indeed, nothing wrong.

Its kinda love or rather friend at first sight eh?

Not always wise to follow our feelings tho

 

[jibbijib]

There are certain people on this board, for example, that when I talk to them, I think, "I bet it would be fun to hang out with him/her". I think everybody thinks that way, so what's so weird about it? :dunno: Some sort of general connection is sparked, for whatever reason, then you start feeling out eachother's personalities and end up considering them to be a friend. I don't think there's anything uncommon in that scenario.

:2 cents:

The beauty of being a part of a couple online car/bike forums is that you actually get to meet the people you talk to eventually. There's always this common ground you share when you meet. And sometimes you feel famous too, or like your meeting someone famous. I know that since I'm usually a clown on those sites, alot of people have always had the funniest comments about things I've done. But generally everyone you meet is so nice and so helpful. I feel that when I make the friends on a forum, and i meet them in person, they are that much better of a friend than online.

A couple of times I've met people who I've had it in for on the site, but eventually befriended them. And then when I met them they were much nicer and more receptive in person. For instance, the first time this happened, I was gonig to a cruise where my "arch" enemy was going to be. We were called enemies since we were in contest about being random and things got really heated up. Eventually we came under nicer terms. Anyway, basically one of the mods that day told me that my best friend was there and that I should meet him, so I went ahead and met him and we got along quite well. He gave me a ride in his sweet car too!

The great thing is, when everyone is in person in large groups like that, it's like were all a big giant family of comedians, always pickin on eachother and sharing inside jokes and such. It's the best experience, and is totalyl worth being a part of the online communities.

 

[bob_smith404]

i have felt emotional connections to people i have met online, but the 'relationship' never progreeses to a level that they do with face to face relationships, and i mean all relationships, not just sexual

 

[wigster]

I'm human thank god!!! the reason i say it felt " weird " is because online you can be who you want to, whereas in life you may be different in various aspects. In real life people can see " beyond the mask " if you like, whereas online you think " are they saying that because thats how they feel, or thats want you want them to say " if that makes sense.

 

[young_guns]

I'm human thank god!!! the reason i say it felt " weird " is because online you can be who you want to, whereas in life you may be different in various aspects. In real life people can see " beyond the mask " if you like, whereas online you think " are they saying that because thats how they feel, or thats want you want them to say " if that makes sense.

plus u can meet alot more people online

 

[86150]

It does happen, you chat with someone online some and you kind of find out you have common interests besides the situation at hand.

WHether it is movies, TV shows, Music or one of a million things, you can become friends with someone without ever seeing or speaking to them face to face.

I've got a good buddy in California and I am in the deep south and he and I have never met, but we send just stuff back and forth all the time.

I consider him a friend.

 

[villiageidiot]

I am dealing with an emotional attachment to someone right now. I had an attraction to this person before the personal talks started, now that I have gotten to know her more and know her personality, my feelings have gotten stronger. Her personality is more attractive to me than her physical appearance, I just adore this person to no end. We chat online a lot and it has grown into a friendship which I am thrilled about. Of course I would love more, but it's tough dealing with the fact that more will never happen!:crying:

 

[Legzman]

I just want Chef to grill me up a nice juicy steak...does that count?

 

[belgianass]

it is a common fact that people like to life in a "good-feeling-world", even right now, the internet makes it even more interesting ... i've considered myself lucky allready to find some friends here and there, even in my hometown or at my job, i like to be surrounded by people who think like me or act the way that i want them to be. You meet weirdo's as well, you can't be all the times lucky ... stick together with the ones you like, even you don't have to talk to them everytime, just let them know how you think.
It's weird at first, for me it's difficult to talk to a person that i still haven't seen, it goes better after time. you kinda act shy, because you still don't know what kinda zones you can't enter . once you know this, it goes better and you can enjoy a good "chat" sometimes more then a good conversation...

 

[D-rock]

Making emotional connections to other people is just a part of life. I like a lot of the people I know online better than in real life anyhow.

 

[Torre82]

The same logic I've applied to my GF applies online:

"Our little nothing chats are more entertaining and meaningful than all the serious real-life crap everyone else throws at me."

 

[jibbijib]

Torre, I was gunna rep you for that post, but it won't let me, so I'm going to give you hawt game of bumdarts instead just to show how much I like your post.

 

[Bone]

your brain emits vibrations. when the wave meshes harmonically with other people's brainwaves, a connection takes place and the mind washes in emotional attraction. when the frequencies are in discord, there is no connection and you have no feeling toward that person.

what you are describing is completely natural. :thumbsup: