I can guarantee that most women want to be eaten after giving a BJ...who would want to be penetrated by a limp dick who's just had the jizz sucked out of it?!
This whole reason is why she goes first. And it's not that I "let her go first," but I
love to have her go first.
There's nothing like dipping your rod deep in a quivering, wet pussy. It's even better when you can prolong it and she starts getting into a second orgasm (although timing that well is another story
). And when it comes to a "return BJ," if you think she doesn't want to perform after getting off herself orally, well ... try it sometime.
This lack of attention to her is why I still don't enjoy porn. Seeing a woman get off is fucking great. The man taking advantage of that after-the-fact is even better.
It's why I loved Angela Summers, because she would get off sometimes. I also love even softcore models like Karina Hart, because she really seems to be into getting herself off -- or at least getting part of the way there, rather intensely.