Divorce? {Married or divorced people}

[Rey C.]

OK, so, on a more serious note, I've never been married, but I have had relationship problems in the past. In the end the biggest factor that either helps you overcome the problem or never get over it is communication, or lack thereof. If you're willing to openly communicate with your partner it's much more likely that your relationship will last. If you tend to hold things in instead, sooner or later all the bottled up emotions will explode and will cause problems.

Same here: an engagement that lasted longer than many (most?) marriages do these days. I agree with all that you said. Plus, once it all explodes out, one or both of you is going to say something that can't be taken back. And even though you can both go back & forth with, "It's OK... I knew you were just mad... all is forgiven"... yadda, yadda, yadda - if cruel enough, those words will always live in the back of your mind or in your heart.

So yep, just what you said: communicate... openly & honestly (and calmly).

 

[Elwood70]

I'm divorced....and still pissed off about it.

 

[kmc321]

The simple answer is that there is no answer. It may sound like a cop-out but it comes down to what's best for you.

I lived a great single life for many years when I was younger. I had a great marriage for a decade but it came to an end for some reasons I get and some I'll likely never understand. My fault, her fault - irrelevant.

I'm now enjoying the single life again.

It's all too short...enjoy every god-damn moment whether you're in a marriage or off tapping whomever you met that night. Try to not hurt anyone along the way.

Just my 2 cents.

 

[Alyssa Rose]

Same here: an engagement that lasted longer than many (most?) marriages do these days. I agree with all that you said. Plus, once it all explodes out, one or both of you is going to say something that can't be taken back. And even though you can both go back & forth with, "It's OK... I knew you were just mad... all is forgiven"... yadda, yadda, yadda - if cruel enough, those words will always live in the back of your mind or in your heart.

So yep, just what you said: communicate... openly & honestly (and calmly).

I agree with both you and GSB. Communication really is key in a healthy relationship.

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