Much can be left to dreams, and even put into words, and suggestive, visual additives. The greatest thing about fantasies is that one can live out even unrealistic expectations of encounters. As long as they are built on fantasies of consensual sex, and not overriding consent (or other things that are actually assault or violence, using otherwise sex as an excuse), I don't see anything wrong with it.
Many months ago a friend of mine was lusting heavily for Carol Goldnerova's sample set at Viewpornstars.com. And I had to admit it was my favorite set of her, possibly of any blonde model in the 21st century so far, especially select shots. So I took those public, sample shots, and used them to write a story to his liking with Carol's visual perfection, in various positions, as the backdrop. It's rather explicit, but I hope some of you enjoy it.
"The Flight Plan, with Carol Goldnerova"
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http://profvolup.tumblr.com/post/41762498687/the-flight-plan-with-carol-goldnerova
It's these types of encounters that are unrealistic, or are otherwise based on expectations that will never come to pass, and best left to erotica and fantasy. If it bothers Carol or anyone, I don't mind taking the story down. But I hope people can enjoy these types of private fantasies, while respecting the Golden Rule of what models want is nothing more than what we all want. Our bodies are our own, and we decide, and shouldn't need to explain. Leave it to fantasy.
I never question why a woman does not do something. If she tells me it is something she does not want to do, or she does not feel comfortable with, there is absolutely no reason I would want her to do such. She has her reasons, and they do not need to be questioned, much less explained. Besides, asking or even pressuring any individual never goes far.
Some women find their comfort level. Even softcore models deal with a lot of considerations that most of us would find consistently irritating, and we'd "go off" on someone well before they ever do (let alone if they ever do). But comfort is the bottom line every individual prefers. I distinctly remember the 10 year, and continuing, career of Australian Angela White. She started at 18, not the thinnest, not the bustiest, not your traditional supermodel, but just a beauty many had trouble explaining their lust for. She took runner-up titles in
Voluptuous magazine for years, before winning the title some 5 years after she was "new," with countless people saying she needed to go hardcore to win. She didn't have to do porn to do that. Then she slowly moved towards it with a boyfriend, because she reached that comfort level. And finally beyond.
It's always about her comfort level. Not saying anyone is "right" or "wrong," just about comfort level. It's not even about being some abstract concept of a "gentleman" either.
I was never a looker beyond being basic fit and athletic, or ever the charismatic or most popular person. But in my youth I let women control the tempo of what they wanted to do. Maybe the world has changed in the last decade, but I had the best sessions with a woman on the date after I previously taken her home, and made sure she got home okay, when she was completely inebriated (even if she wasn't my date in many cases). Sometimes comfort and knowing that she could trust me when she was most vulnerable. Guys used to think I was stupid, until I pointed out that was it really so stupid to wait to have her when she wanted me, sober, instead of being "the closest cock" when she was inebriated.
I'm sure some guys are reading this and thinking I'm full of myself, and this has little to do with the reality here. But it's the same world, women taking comfort they won't be pressured or told to do what they do not want to do. Just saying.