If you`re not in a relationship, go and get one or go out and score a whole load of one-night stands and fuck everyone senseless including yourself, or book escorts if that`s your thing.
If you are in a relationship communicate properly with each other but accept that there may be some things which are off limits. I`d love to get my other half to pierce her nipples with rings and use them to tie her tits together, then tie her to the bed and bang her brains out but its not going to happen. (the pierced nipple bit.) Thats what happens in relationships - you compromise on a middle ground so you are both happy.