my ex s/o ended things almost 7 months ago. it was not a friendly breakup and we found out that each others ****** and friends hated the other. we were both abusive to each other physically verbally emotionally mentally thru the whole time. we have not spoken in 7 months no calls-she changed her phone number but i haven't mine-no emails, no letters nothing. i though i was over her but just got a email reminder that i had set up last year for her birthday-i set that up last year so i would not forget and it made me start thinking about her again and remembering the good times. i want to send her a happy birthday/apology email telling her all the positive changes that i have made these pass 7 months, explain to her that i am not obsessed with her-i starting thinking about her because of the reminder i set last year and i will tell her that and that i am no longer a loser-i have a good job now, almost finished school, been going to counseling and anger managment, etc . i think she is with someone new now but i will try anyway. is this a good idea?