Monogamy: An Aphrodisiac?

Your view of monogamy in-person and on-camera is?

  • I like monogamy in-person, and I actually prefer monogamy on-camera

    Votes: 8 27.6%
  • I like monogamy in-person, but on-camera give me the sluts/studs with many lovers

    Votes: 4 13.8%
  • I like monogamy in-person, but I want the fantasy of a devoted spouse bringing me home lovers

    Votes: 4 13.8%
  • I like monogamy in-person, but I'm indifferent when it comes to on-camera

    Votes: 4 13.8%
  • I'm indifferent on monogamy in general, both in-person and on-camera

    Votes: 4 13.8%
  • I like being a player in-person, but I'm indifferent when it comes to on-camera

    Votes: 0 0.0%
  • I like being a player in-person, so I like it on-camera too

    Votes: 3 10.3%
  • I like being a player in-person, so I want the fantasy of a devoted spouse bringing home lovers

    Votes: 1 3.4%
  • I like being a player in-person, but there are stars that turn me on with their monogamy

    Votes: 0 0.0%
  • Other

    Votes: 1 3.4%

  • Total voters
    29
Before I begin, understand this has nothing to do with "morals." I have no envy for or dislike of people who have open relationships, multiple partners, etc... In fact, more power to those who have reached a balance in their life, with their lovers, etc... where they enjoy such to their, and their lovers', liking (as long as they are responsible for their actions, of course).

What this is about is what drives me insane -- in a positive way. I'm sure I've seemed like a "braggart" to some at times with regards to my relationship with my wife over the last dozen years. But that's never what it's been about. After all, my marriage could fall apart tomorrow and I wouldn't have it anymore. In fact, I travel so much I only get to make love to my wife a handful of times per month at the most. As such, please understand it's about monogamy -- more specficially -- how monogamy makes you feel both with your lover(s) as well as in pornography.

Every year I'm with my wife, am intimate with her and repeatedly become one with her, I get more into it. Each time I think it can't get any better and it just does. Now I'm not going to lie and say it has nothing to do with her sexual prowess and sense of adventure -- I'll take pride in the fact that she is a very, very giving lover that, at least from what I've read her, is less commonplace. But that's not the root of it. The root of it is that I find monogamy is a powerful aphrodisiac.

You might have read that I avoided intercourse before marriage and I didn't even like a woman going down on me until I had been with her awhile. That didn't have to do with morals either, but really my comfort level. I'm extremely fragile when intimate, which is why I purposely limited my sexual adventures to merely outercourse with random lovers before I was married. This had the nice benefit of also qualifying as "safe sex" as well.

Now I'm not getting any younger and God knows I can't "keep it up" like I was in my 20s (let alone a teen), but damn if I'm not "getting off" better and better. My wife has picked up on the fact over the last year that I'm genuinely turned-on by the constant reminder that I will fuck her and her only for the rest of our lives. I'm literally turned on by the thought of growing old with her -- even though I'll continue to slowly lose my "performance" and her body will only get softer and saggier. And she is really catering to that fact, both in how she acts as well as speaks while we are initimate -- especially before we are intimate where she really knows how to "set me off" into a lustful frenzy.

This directly translates in what I like to see in pornography. It's come up in few threads now, like the recent Kelly Madison one (completely ignoring the fact that she also lets her husband, as well as herself, enjoy additional female lovers), and countless other threads where people talk about "who would you do?" "have a shot with?" etc... threads. Monogamy turns me on -- from Kelly Madison, to Wifey (I don't even go for her "******" role-play, except for the fact that her "******" is just her as a brunette, my favorite) to Dawn (of Dawn's Place) to even lesser-known wives like Roberta Canyon and even the thought of softcore-only models who are married like Kerry Marie.

So now I'm curious about others. I'm sure some like monogamy, maybe as much as I do in-person or maybe not as much, but they have different views when it comes to porn. Frankly, in my view, if every pornstar got hitched and they only did their husbands, I wouldn't be disappointed one bit -- quite the opposite! Even years ago, before I recognized my monogamy addiction, I remember I used to look for Paula and Eric Price vids. I knew they were husband and wife but never really put it together that it's what I wanted the most.

Poll selections ...
- I like monogamy in-person, and I actually prefer monogamy on-camera
- I like monogamy in-person, but on-camera give me the sluts/studs with many lovers
- I like monogamy in-person, but I want the fantasy of a devoted spouse bringing me home lovers
- I like monogamy in-person, but I'm indifferent when it comes to on-camera
- I'm indifferent on monogamy in general, both in-person and on-camera
- I like being a player in-person, but I'm indifferent when it comes to on-camera
- I like being a player in-person, so I like it on-camera too
- I like being a player in-person, so I want the fantasy of a devoted spouse bringing home lovers
- I like being a player in-person, but there are stars that turn me on with their monogamy
- Other
 

Legzman

what the fuck you lookin at?
interesting poll
 
interesting poll
I tried to make it such. I'm especially interested in how many people choose #3 or #8. Again, this is not about morals (and I have no interest in such non-sense as "thinking I'm better" than anyone -- envy and pride are two of the worst sins IMHO), so please be honest. If you would love to have a wife/husband that only ***** with you but let you ***** with all who you wanted -- let alone brought them home to you -- please vote such.
 

Legzman

what the fuck you lookin at?
that's exactly how I voted!
 
Fox: choose #7

I'm not really sure what #8 means, to me my partner bringing home lovers for herself and for me and for both of us is not just a fantasy, it's the only way I would live. #8 was my other choice, but I chose #7, they both apply.
Yeah, I wish I had more room to clarify #3/#8. I guess it means you want to ***** around but not let your spouse. I know that's a mega-oversimplification and I 100% understand what you suggest Fox (you and I think much differently than most), but you'd probably want to choose #7.
 
7 votes? Common guys, more samples!
Yes, this is a poorly disguised "bump" ;)
 
One last, final, selfish bump for more data ...
 
I voted I like monogamy in-person, but on-camera give me the sluts/studs with many lovers

simply because what I like in porn, is often pretty different from what I like in real life. I want my favorite performers to have sex with lots of different people on camera for the variety and the "slut" effect, but in real life I believe in monogamy in relationsships.
 
i guess #2 is for me. i assume you mean porn when you say on camera?

but to answer the topic question, monogamy is the ultimate aphrodisiac. going without sex for a while can be irritating. but when the time comes, just ravish her. show her that she is the only one while you take out your blocked plumbing. trust me, she will give it back even more.
 
I picked the first one
 
I chose answer number 3, I like monogamy in-person, but I want the fantasy of a devoted spouse bringing me home lovers. Im not sure if its a healthy fantasy to have but my girlfriend of 4 years is very bisexual but hasnt done anything with anyone else since we have been together, but it gets me off big time in the back of my head that it just might someday. I honestly probably dont want it to happen cause I doubt that the real life experience would ever be as great as I've built it up in my mind to be. As far as in my porn, personally I like it the dirtier the better. As I get older I ofter look for porn that involves wives, husbands, not cheating but having sex someone other than their mate. I guess because I do believe in monogamy, that this is the ultimate ***** that I can get through my porn.
 
like monogamy in-person, but on-camera give me the sluts/studs with many lovers

That's what I chose and unsurprisingly what my dear wife nodded consent to as well.

Prof: my wife says "my perspective is no different from Roughneck's, but your options #2 and #3 are almost similar. I mean, sure it is a fantasy at times - but isn't all porn fantasy anyway?"


cheers,
 
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