Why in real life, girls refuse anal intercourse?

[hotrod11inches]

I have dated a lot, really a lot of girls but.................

Only two are "willing" and love anal sex and interestingly, both are "biker chicks" and have no problems to put it inside !

Others I have to coerce them but no luck, may be once and they hate it !

Can anyone share their experience in real life, why your girlfriend/wife refuse anal intercourse but the porn stars take it in so easily ? Why ?

 

[Johan]

They usualy say that it hurts.

I think some girls will never enjoy anal. But for some (many ?) girls its all psychological...

Because every girls heard that it hurts, they don't wanna do it, 'cause they are affraid to hurt...

And even when they try, they keep in mind that peeps it will hurt so they can't be fully relaxed and in perfect condition to enjoy it...

Also, it is true that, at least at the beginning it hurts a bit. But after some time, it stops hurting, when the anus is relaxed.

To learn anal to a girl, you must be extra-gentle, extra -carefull, extra-tender, extra-aware of her feelings and the position is also very important : some brings extreme intense feelings and mustn't be choosen for an "anal initiation" (the ones allowing deep penetration)

A good position for anal initiation : http://www.chez.com/lapagedamelie/postures/chevauchement.jpg The girl controls the depth of the penetration and the rythm of the moves. The only problem is that it may be difficult fo the man to find the way to the anus of the woman. If she guides it with her hand, it should be allright.

This one il also good for beginner-girls : http://www.chez.com/lapagedamelie/postures/andromaque.jpg Another position that let the guy passive and let the girls controls depth and moves.

Doggystyle should not be "used" : Deep penetration, intense feelings, dominated girl... It's one of the best way to ruin the girl 1st anal experience.

If the links for the pics are down try these ones :
http://img153.imageshack.us/my.php?image=chevauchement1cg.jpg
http://img153.imageshack.us/my.php?image=andromaque7vf.jpg

 

[Slam]

Johan, just for curosity sakes, could you check your links. I get a webpage not found.

 

[Johan]

I've check, they work perfectly to me.

But, to be sure, I've put the pics on imageshack

1st one http://img153.imageshack.us/img153/7630/chevauchement8su.jpg
2nd one http://img153.imageshack.us/my.php?image=andromaque7vf.jpg

 

[BNF]

There are many moral ideas about anal sex and the negative aspects are still predominant. I think it is still often seen as "dirty" (immoral sense) and deviant to most of the public. It has always been popular in certain non-western cultures, and sometimes in fact preferred. For the typical western woman, I think it remains a tabboo. It may also be shunned for reasons hygenic reasons. (When, in fact, practitioners know the proper preparations.)
Coercion is not the best route. I think it may be far more successful to educate over time why it is not dirty, not a real tabboo and how it can be done cleanly. You may find that the tabboo aspect in her is a turn on when she crosses or approaches that threshold.

 

[juballs]

ive never stuck something up my arse, but i would assume it would hurt... u wouldnt want me to stick a q-tip up your nose or in your ear the whole way


you could damage something...

they have the right to say no

 

[time-fish]

my advice, make a girl feel more at eas by allowing her to insert her fingures into your anus. your reaction will tell her all she needs to know. also try giving each other analingus, (Lickling each others anus) this is very plesherabull and will no doubt create an intorest in full anal sex.

ps allways fingure a girls anus first :wave2:

 

[memoryloss]

Maybe a female opinion is needed? Well, I go as far as fingers, not any more than that. I do not have anal sex not because it gives me taboo feeling, but because I just do not want to do it. I don't see it as arousing because when I think of anuses, I think of sh*t. Things are supposed to come out of that hole, not in. I'm not saying everyone who engages in anal sex is disgusting, I'm just saying I don't see it as very arousing.

 

[siliconebrian]

some (most) of my ex-gf's wanted to try it!
and 75% of them liked it, because they were willing to REALY try it, so they took their time, gave it a second try if the first time didn't go that well, realy learned to relax (very important)
fingered their ass, and let me do it aswell, 1 2 3 fingers, so they got to know the feeling and after a while they found out that they realy liked the feeling and what it did to them!
so it's just a mather of WANTING to try it, and taking your time with it!!

 

[Marie]

ive never stuck something up my arse, but i would assume it would hurt... u wouldnt want me to stick a q-tip up your nose or in your ear the whole way


you could damage something...

they have the right to say no

Well said!

If you really want to know why most girls don't want it, ask yourself if you would do it.

 

[hotrod11inches]

Marie,

You have missed my question, most of my girlfriends refused to do it, but "ALL" the porn stars take it so easily into their arse and I have seen two dicks into a tiny asshole.

Are porn stars born with or train to take big cocks into their arse ?

 

[siliconebrian]

so you are asking if they do anything BEFORE anal sex?
I'd like to know aswel, I gueas they do something to "get clean", and use a lot of lubricant!

 

[Jacksson_77]

I'm with juballs, memoryloss and Marie on this one. I find anal sex disgusting and can fully understand why women refuse it.
But, as hotrod11inches asked why pornstars seem to take it so easily into their anus: I doubt that all of them like it. If they don't do it, it probably isn't very conducive to their career. It's just their job.

:hatsoff: Jackson

 

[Marie]

It's just their job.

Agreed!

 

[trukmuch]

my wife just like anal sex with dfingers not with dick....but it's a good start !
Pornstars are paid for do that (and good paied I think)...perhaps if you pay your girlfriend Ha Ha Ha joke !!!

 

[hotrod11inches]

trukmuch,

I tried that many times and she just tricked me. No dice.

If you think you can pay your girlfriend to do it, you are wrong !

She will take the money and you inserted the finger in first (small finger in) , she will jump and make excuse and said, "Honey, let's try next time" I heard this phrase a million times,

"Let's try next time !"

 

[Anonymous2]

trukmuch,

I tried that many times and she just tricked me. No dice.

If you think you can pay your girlfriend to do it, you are wrong !

She will take the money and you inserted the finger in first (small finger in) , she will jump and make excuse and said, "Honey, let's try next time" I heard this phrase a million times,

"Let's try next time !"

It's obvious to me these girls just don't want to try or do it. It's also obvious that this is something that needs to be respected no matter what. Some girls do things, sexual things as an example, that they don't really want to do just because they think they have to please their guy. Come to think about it, the same is true for a lot of pornstars. We've had this discussion before. I strongly doubt some -initially rather innocent- girl like Simony Diamond considers it a pleasure to get fucked up the ass in virtually every photoshoot she is booked for.

If they don't want it, they don't want it, period. Who the fuck cares why? If a girl approached you asking if she could insert something in your nostrils, would you want to come up with an excuse why you don't want that? Just accept it.

 

[Peter Gazinya]

Found in another thread, but this may explain it!

side effects of anal

 

[satyrsam]

Most of the women i've dated have come to me wanting anal sex, I never needed to talk about it. They say that they like it because it's nauty and it's a sensitive area that give them an extra boost to their clit and vigainal stimulation.

 

[foxycougar]

Suffice to say that most heterosexual men do not like things to be shoved up their ass so why should we? Some women like....some women like to be spanked and some women like to be fake "raped". Each woman is different so don't expect some things to fly with every woman that you are with.

Besides the pain, anal sex can lead to various infections as well as tears in the fragile and very thin membrane between the anus and vagina.