One of my many questions in life is shadowed by this very simple one. To lie or not lie? Seems easy to answer right....don't lie.
[Just read the last two questions if your not an avid reader or have a short attention span like m...oh look a bird!
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But, for example, If your wife is pregnant and asks you how she looks....
Honesty: You look like a cow...
Dishonesty: Your more beautiful than ever...
Socially speaking We can't underestimate peoples perceptive abilities any more. Maybe they'll believe you right then but not later on.
I've described this situation before where I was with my girlfriend for two months and then she introduced me to her best friend who seemed more compatible for me (at least at that time) and whom I've been hiding a surging lust for. My girlfriend had always suspected the worst case scenario that I liked her best friend and maybe even cheated on her and I would have to always assure her other wise. I was lying because I never told her the whole truth. Then again emotion was clouding my judgement and I didn't know the whole truth...(confusing I know.) So My girlfriend and I have been broken up now for about six or eight months but we still talk and even have sex occasionally. But one night I couldn't hold the burden of my lies any longer and told her the truth. I have to say it felt so good to get it off my chest but the guilt of lying to her for over two years in the ideas of 1. I didn't want to hurt her and two my feelings were surging inconsistently for her friend and 3. Despite my girlfriend and I having differences and a lack of trust I didn't want to break up with her over someone who would probably end up another one night stand, a complete rejection, or a broken heart.
Gah so now my ex hates me...I still have surging feelings but for both of them now and I am completely at a loss for what to do... I know I need to define what I want and thats easy enough but the hard part of that is that I need to make things okay between this self-inclusive-threesome of ours before I can move on...I know it's not neccesarily my job or something I can do alone but if there are any steps I can take to do it, I will.
What would you do...lie....or not to lie?
How do I repair the damages caused by "neccesary" lies being admitted later on?
[Just read the last two questions if your not an avid reader or have a short attention span like m...oh look a bird!
]But, for example, If your wife is pregnant and asks you how she looks....
Honesty: You look like a cow...
Dishonesty: Your more beautiful than ever...
Socially speaking We can't underestimate peoples perceptive abilities any more. Maybe they'll believe you right then but not later on.
I've described this situation before where I was with my girlfriend for two months and then she introduced me to her best friend who seemed more compatible for me (at least at that time) and whom I've been hiding a surging lust for. My girlfriend had always suspected the worst case scenario that I liked her best friend and maybe even cheated on her and I would have to always assure her other wise. I was lying because I never told her the whole truth. Then again emotion was clouding my judgement and I didn't know the whole truth...(confusing I know.) So My girlfriend and I have been broken up now for about six or eight months but we still talk and even have sex occasionally. But one night I couldn't hold the burden of my lies any longer and told her the truth. I have to say it felt so good to get it off my chest but the guilt of lying to her for over two years in the ideas of 1. I didn't want to hurt her and two my feelings were surging inconsistently for her friend and 3. Despite my girlfriend and I having differences and a lack of trust I didn't want to break up with her over someone who would probably end up another one night stand, a complete rejection, or a broken heart.
Gah so now my ex hates me...I still have surging feelings but for both of them now and I am completely at a loss for what to do... I know I need to define what I want and thats easy enough but the hard part of that is that I need to make things okay between this self-inclusive-threesome of ours before I can move on...I know it's not neccesarily my job or something I can do alone but if there are any steps I can take to do it, I will.
What would you do...lie....or not to lie?
How do I repair the damages caused by "neccesary" lies being admitted later on?
