Spontaneously or routine for you? "Sex on a calender?"

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My friend I just talked on the phone. The conversation brought up a issue that had shocked me a couple years ago in a conversation with another friend. She said she and her husband "always" have sex on Thursday morning (husband goes to work later) and on Sundays after her ****** -in-law picks up the ******** to take them to church and spend the day with them. My other friend told me years ago that she and her boyfriend got together only on Saturday night *puzzled look*. I couldn't believe it then, now with it in my face one more time, the issue puzzles me a great deal.

What about you? Have you settled into a routine or are you spontaneous ? I personally have to go with my feelings at the moment. I may reach for my s/o in Wal-Mart and whisper "Can't wait to get home." after looking at him and suddenly feeling the love and needing him. I understand life gets you busy, but I can't help but feel sad if "emotions and needs" are scheduled. Far to clinical for me personally.

Don't get me wrong, if you incorporate both in your life I think its OK. Different lives have different circumstances I understand that, but to only share that bond "every Tuesday" to me shows a routine comfort zone that shouts no life/zest left in a relationship. A issue that should be addressed.

"Danger Will Robinson."

LL