Relationships and Porn.

[thexflash]

Hey everyone - I need some inputs and advice...

First off, for those that know me, I have to admit I havn't been fully honest on why I'm so absent here. Yes, my computer broke down, and yes, I couldn't afford a new one for a long time, but the main reason I'm not here as often as I would like to is that I have a girlfriend since quite some time back. And she hates Porn. Hates it. Come on... I LOVE Porn. Until I met her, Porn was my main interest, hobby, source of joy. I'm like The Dude in The Big Lebowski listening to bowling strikes on tape instead of music, only I can go on the bus listening to the Teagan Presley-scene on Teenage Anal Princess rather than a music album.
Porn is love, beauty, perfection and happiness to me. Nothing makes me feel so good.

I'm missing nasty sex and watching Porn so much it is breaking my relationship apart. Am I a weirdo for choosing Porn over love?
If let's say I was a record junkie and met a girl that hates music, ofcourse it wouldn't last. I consider Porn my main interest so how would this be able to last?

Does anyone here been in a similar situation?

Cheers

 

[sean miguel]

You shouldn't be looking at that stuff.

 

[thexflash]

You shouldn't be looking at that stuff.

Haha! Yes I should.

 

[~~whimsy~~]

Well thank goodness this isn't a porn site! You're among anti-porn friends here. We gotcha back. In fact I can't think of one person here that likes or partake in the nasty porno here.

 

[Harpsman]

Hey everyone - I need some inputs and advice...

First off, for those that know me, I have to admit I havn't been fully honest on why I'm so absent here. Yes, my computer broke down, and yes, I couldn't afford a new one for a long time, but the main reason I'm not here as often as I would like to is that I have a girlfriend since quite some time back. And she hates Porn. Hates it. Come on... I LOVE Porn. Until I met her, Porn was my main interest, hobby, source of joy. I'm like The Dude in The Big Lebowski listening to bowling strikes on tape instead of music, only I can go on the bus listening to the Teagan Presley-scene on Teenage Anal Princess rather than a music album.
Porn is love, beauty, perfection and happiness to me. Nothing makes me feel so good.

I'm missing nasty sex and watching Porn so much it is breaking my relationship apart. Am I a weirdo for choosing Porn over love?
If let's say I was a record junkie and met a girl that hates music, ofcourse it wouldn't last. I consider Porn my main interest so how would this be able to last?

Does anyone here been in a similar situation?

Cheers

Introduce her to porn gently with something like Mandingo's Anal Assault IV :1orglaugh

 

[~~whimsy~~]

Or Rocco

 

[John_8581]

You need some "things" to "sweeten" the relationship up with your girlfriend!

:dominatrix: :bedbounce: :whip: :bedbounce: :dominatrix: :bedbounce: :whip: :bedbounce: :dominatrix: :bedbounce: :whip:

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[FreeOnes_Adam]

Well, you shouldn't force it on her. Communication is king here. Find out why she doesn't like it. Chances are its pretty simple stuff. Is she jealous of the performers? Does she feel like you're not interested in her and only "perfect" and "skinny" girls? Figure it out and address the situation.

Every girl is different.. you either find a girl who is into it (or warms up to it) or you compromise because that's what relationships usually are. A big sack of compromise. You'll figure it out.

 

[Torre82]

To answer my .. um, well ALL of my ex's questions, and truthfully..
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No, yours arent big enough.
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You arent interesting. But you arent boring enough, either.
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Your clit is tiny and you dont 'cum like I wish you would'. Ex-wife with the giant clit: Forced her to cum 6 times in 60 seconds to prove a point. She didnt get it. *rolls fucking eyes*
Ate a chick for 2 hours in Chicago, once. Dicked her down for 7. She came 1.5 times during all that. *sighs with an UGH*
Porn? I've been in a relationship with porn forever. Is it an addiction? No. It is a 'sure thing'. Do I get home and get guaranteed sex? No. Do I get sucked-on? No. Do I sometimes say FUCKIT I'm too tired to just.. romp for awhile SIMPLY to empty my nuts? ABSOLUTELY.
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Porn doesnt 'yap at me'. I'm an introvert and would rather everyone just.. stay away. But also a drinker, soo... I sometimes flipflop and want to make words.
Porn doesnt mind if I go limp and shift back into first gear.. porn just keeps trying to make me happy. Or shocked. Or boringly still effective. Or interestingly new. Porn puts stupid captions and photoshops on things.
Porn doesnt actively hate women, unless you look for that. . But women actively hate porn.. or more specifically.. YOUR PORN.
Why do you look at her? Why do you find such and such attractive?
To quote Larry David:
I wont masturbate to you because I respect you. Them? Yeahhhh... you dont wanna be in my imagination while I'm doing that. Trust me.

TL;DR: Your relationship is already over. Cuz you never left porn.. and she OWNS YOUR DICK.

 

[thexflash]

What I totally forgot to mention was that when we first started dating SHE wanted to watch Porn together. So this didn't develop the way it should.

 

[Torre82]

What I totally forgot to mention was that when we first started dating SHE wanted to watch Porn together. So this didn't develop the way it should.

*just leaves this here*
https://fightthenewdrug.org/why-watching-porn-with-my-husband-was-a-bad-idea/

 

[thexflash]

*just leaves this here*
https://fightthenewdrug.org/why-watching-porn-with-my-husband-was-a-bad-idea/

Thanks. Interesting read, and quite some recognition there.

 

[UnderBro]

There's different types of porn. I would suggest ask your girlfriend what turns her on and seen out that porn for her and for you both that you can enjoy watching together. Nina Hartley mentioned this tip in her Two Girls One Mic podcast interview which is a good listen.

https://www.twogirlsonemic.com/2018/11/08/11-the-meryl-streep-of-porn/

 

[thexflash]

There's different types of porn. I would suggest ask your girlfriend what turns her on and seen out that porn for her and for you both that you can enjoy watching together. Nina Hartley mentioned this tip in her Two Girls One Mic podcast interview which is a good listen.

https://www.twogirlsonemic.com/2018/11/08/11-the-meryl-streep-of-porn/

Well, she never liked the majority of the stuff I like (gangbangs, lots of cum, facefucking etc) so we used to watch mostly girl-girl or amateur couples. That was fine, but then from one day to another she suddenly went full scale anti porn. Pretty much everything about sexuality portrayed in any form of exposure is suddenly equal to all-out sexism in her point of view...

 

[Pornfan99]

flash: do you have Netflix? There is documentary on there, about a European porn producer. How she still makes movies with plot lines, fantasies, etc. She receives a lot of fan mail / appreciation from female viewers of porn. Maybe look up some of her titles? (I wouldn't get the one the documentary focuses on.. FLAT dark brunette piano player.) And/or, go to an "adult store for women," and ask a salesperson what videos are well received / reviewed by female customers. In general - I'd stay away from those with BBCs, lesbian scenes, DPs, and maybe anal.

 

[thexflash]

flash: do you have Netflix? There is documentary on there, about a European porn producer. How she still makes movies with plot lines, fantasies, etc. She receives a lot of fan mail / appreciation from female viewers of porn. Maybe look up some of her titles? (I wouldn't get the one the documentary focuses on.. FLAT dark brunette piano player.) And/or, go to an "adult store for women," and ask a salesperson what videos are well received / reviewed by female customers. In general - I'd stay away from those with BBCs, lesbian scenes, DPs, and maybe anal.

Thanks.
Maybe, but as I wrote in my previous post, she seems to totally hate anything in porn nowadays. But I guess this is the path to go when I think she's ready to talk about it again. I suppose I have to let it rest for a while. Cheers.

 

[pool_hustler]

...
It's true that guys are rarely actually rejecting their partner by supplementing their sex life with porn - that in fact as Jerry Seinfeld said "It's part of our lifestyle. We have to do it." But it's not hard to see how that dynamic can be misunderstood by a lot of women - how it can make them feel threatened, replaced or rejected - and lead to them adopting a militantly anti-porn attitude.

And I'm wondering: if your girl was spending considerably more time entertaining herself with porn than having sex with you how would you feel?

 

[thexflash]

...
It's true that guys are rarely actually rejecting their partner by supplementing their sex life with porn - that in fact as Jerry Seinfeld said "It's part of our lifestyle. We have to do it." But it's not hard to see how that dynamic can be misunderstood by a lot of women - how it can make them feel threatened, replaced or rejected - and lead to them adopting a militantly anti-porn attitude.

And I'm wondering: if your girl was spending considerably more time entertaining herself with porn than having sex with you how would you feel?

Well nowadays porn is something I only watch when I'm alone, so it doesn't interfere with my relationship at all. I know keeping secrets isn't the best idea though, but this I'll keep to myself, at least for now.

 

[UnderBro]

Well, she never liked the majority of the stuff I like (gangbangs, lots of cum, facefucking etc) so we used to watch mostly girl-girl or amateur couples. That was fine, but then from one day to another she suddenly went full scale anti porn. Pretty much everything about sexuality portrayed in any form of exposure is suddenly equal to all-out sexism in her point of view...

Maybe you both could help something interesting to watch together on this website: https://www.pinklabel.tv/

 

[mentator75]

Pretty much everything about sexuality portrayed in any form of exposure is suddenly equal to all-out sexism in her point of view

It's true that guys are rarely actually rejecting their partner by supplementing their sex life with porn

Well nowadays porn is something I only watch when I'm alone, so it doesn't interfere with my relationship at all. I know keeping secrets isn't the best idea though, but this I'll keep to myself, at least for now.

I hear ya, brothers