Personal Sex Life Problem Help?

[shadowglare]

Hey all..I havent posted in a while because of just alot of stuff going on..but i have some issue going on with my sex life and was wondering if anyone could give me any advice or input.

me and my girlfriend have been going out for about...say 5 monthes and i seem to have problems getting it up alot..out of the many many times weve fooled around with each other ive only actually been able to give her actual penetration twice..the rest is mostly oral and such.

i really do want to actually do her but its hard for me to stay erect consistently..i dont know if its stress..or something else. she says im really good at oral sex and playing around and she doesnt care if i dont have full on sex cause thats not what a relationship is all about. but dammit i wanna be able to give her more then just oral and stuff

I think some of the problems might be that i used to masturbate constantly as a teen and a little older and ive heard that could desensitize the penis.

anyone have any advice questions or help pertaining to my situation?

 

[Hypergalaxy]

Do you just have a problem getting it up with her or is it a general problem?

 

[shadowglare]

just when im with her sexually...i mean her giving me a handjob or bj is fine itll get hard but it gets flaccid really quickly after nothing stimulating it for a minute or so.. so its hard to actually keep it erect sometimes.

 

[Hypergalaxy]

just when im with her sexually...i mean her giving me a handjob or bj is fine itll get hard but it gets flaccid really quickly after nothing stimulating it for a minute or so.. so its hard to actually keep it erect sometimes.

If its just when you are with her then it probably has something to do with your sexual attraction to her or that you in some way dont feel comfortable around her. If its a general problem at all then it could have to with stress or other heath problems since you are pretty young to be having that problem. I would try a healthy diet and exercise and if that doesnt work I would see a doctor and see what they have to say maybe they will proscribe a pill. I hear Cialis works wonders and is better then Viagra

 

[shadowglare]

i see...well i dont think its a sexual attraction issue...it might be the stress or the now nervousness being major issues here...it could be all psychological

 

[busenbust]

If it's a long-term problem, then perhaps see your physician.

 

[Hypergalaxy]

i see...well i dont think its a sexual attraction issue...it might be the stress or the now nervousness being major issues here...it could be all psychological

Could be. Whatever it is I hope it all works out. Good Luck man

 

[JustAGuy85]

try some korean red ginseng....you can find it in your local drug store

 

[biomech]

Go to your Dr. it could be alot of thing's, your best off getting checked out to make sure it is not a serious health problem.

 

[shadowglare]

well im not really in the financial position to go see doctors...but if i must ill have to save up some money for it if it keeps eating away at my Psyche

 

[ChefChiTown]

Hey all..I havent posted in a while because of just alot of stuff going on..but i have some issue going on with my sex life and was wondering if anyone could give me any advice or input.

me and my girlfriend have been going out for about...say 5 monthes and i seem to have problems getting it up alot..out of the many many times weve fooled around with each other ive only actually been able to give her actual penetration twice..the rest is mostly oral and such.

i really do want to actually do her...

Maybe you're just not mature enough to handle sex yet. I mean, "DO HER"...??? That's romantic. Were you one of those guys in high school that made a pact with all of his friends to touch a boob by graduation?

 

[titsrock]

I think it's all in your head. You've got stage fright....maybe try a little "displacement" therapy. Watch a porn with her--see if you can maintain your erection. Then bang her. Wait a couple days. Get with her, see if you can get your erection. If not, break out a porn...

Soon, you won't need the porn. :dunno:

 

[Sicario]

Hey all..I haven't posted in a while because of just alot of stuff going on..but i have some issue going on with my sex life and was wondering if anyone could give me any advice or input.

me and my girlfriend have been going out for about...say 5 months and i seem to have problems getting it up alot..out of the many many times we've fooled around with each other I've only actually been able to give her actual penetration twice..the rest is mostly oral and such.

i really do want to actually do her but its hard for me to stay erect consistently..i don't know if its stress..or something else. she says I'm really good at oral sex and playing around and she doesn't care if i don't have full on sex cause thats not what a relationship is all about. but dammit i wanna be able to give her more then just oral and stuff

I think some of the problems might be that i used to masturbate constantly as a teen and a little older and I've heard that could desensitize the penis.

anyone have any advice questions or help pertaining to my situation?

Have you tried getting your hands on some CIALIS or VIAGRA? :dunno:

I'd go to your MD and get this checked asap.

 

[shadowglare]

Maybe you're just not mature enough to handle sex yet. I mean, "DO HER"...??? That's romantic. Were you one of those guys in high school that made a pact with all of his friends to touch a boob by graduation?

lol...actually..i was the one who slept in every class and barely graduated..>_>

 

[nylo]

I feel your pain brother, I've been in similar positions myself. But I will tell you this, what many people don't realize is that the mind has some serious control over whether you get it up or not. When I was first in college I had issues early on and I found out I just could not relax and believe me it was major issues for me. Until I discovered to be more comfortable with myself and etc, and it stopped happening to me.

All I can say is it sound like you need to seriously relax and just let things happen....sometimes that's the best.

good luck

 

[shadowglare]

thanks for all the input guys i appreciate it

 

[bob_dole4]

Maybe you're just not mature enough to handle sex yet. I mean, "DO HER"...??? That's romantic. Were you one of those guys in high school that made a pact with all of his friends to touch a boob by graduation?

Touch her boob? Thats assault, brotha.

 

[power-san]

I would get off the internet, sell your computer and use the money to go the doctor ASAP.