Before I first visited one, I was told that you leave the place with nothing but blue balls to show for it, but that certainly didn't happen with me. The 2dances I got involved a LOT of contact and a hell of a lot of grinding. My first time, I was getting a little too turned on and basically asked the dancer to cool it before I reached the point of no return, at which point she began to vigorously rub my crotch with her ass, making me lose my load. So the whole idea that there's no real pay-off turned out to be false in my case.