Lack of sex in marriage

[bigtoss70]

My wife and I used to have a great sex life... before we were married. I am talking 3-4 times a week. We have been married 2 years now and I am lucky if I get it 1 time a month. We've talked about this and she doesnt think it is a problem, I have tried EVERY idea that I have to spark her interest again. She says she is still attracted to me, but is just too tired to have sex.
Ladies, care to shed some light on this? Guys, any help?
I wouldnt even look at porn if I was getting laid more.

 

[angelfire1972]

it's normal, we are passing the same...
:hatsoff:

 

[Petra]

Is she on any kinds of medication or birth control?? A lot of times that can be the culprit.

 

[smokeythebandit]

Ya I think thats pretty normal after a while, suddenly marriage seems to change things like that.

Happened to me as well!

 

[Evil]

Happens to everybody, I've heard this for years, women seem to get there faster most of the time.

 

[titsrock]

Come home one night smelling of cigar and scotch with a lipstick kiss on your neck and black satin bra hanging out of your shirt pocket.

That will scare your wife back into the sack....:rofl:

Okay. Just kidding. Maybe try scheduling sex. Put it on both of your calendars and throw her a little dirty talk a day or two to "get her in the mood.." Give her a surprise phone call the day of and just say "I'm going to fuck the shit out of you tonight honey...bring it" Maybe a little Testosterony tough ass talk will wake her up out of her funk...

 

[squallumz]

Is she on any kinds of medication or birth control?? A lot of times that can be the culprit.

excellent answer. ive seen it happen first hand to girls im not even married to. my wife doesnt take the shot anymore because it makes her not want sex. when she got off of it, she was frisky again.

not even just birth control, other medication can totally do it too as mentioned. look into it! maybe anti-depressants? dr.s throw those at people so fucking fast these days and those really fuck you up.

 

[dave_rhino]

Did you forget to read the marriage leaflet that got sent to you?...

 

[D-rock]

You could do what some married men do and just nag her about it until she gives in. :1orglaugh

 

[free4440273]

It happens to everyone i would guess, sooner or later. Perhaps buy her some really expensive sexy lingerie

 

[member006]

Best I can give under the circumstances. Communicate, talk, talk and then talk some more. Tell her how you feel (exactly how) I'm sure if she is tired and it very well might be just that, together you both can find a solution.

Many factors can change advice given by strangers, children? two jobs? We know nothing of you or your wife and relationships can never be just black and white, its always grey. On the flip side you two know each other best and need to just work it out together. My:2 cents:.

LL

 

[free4440273]

^ Good post LL.

 

[Facetious]

I have a friend that had the exact same problem.
We're such good friends, I called him what he had become (after the honeymoon) . . . A slob !

OK , so he's an auto tech, I don't care what he does, I simply told him just don't come home all gross with dirty hands etc.
Jump in the shower, first things first, after work. Brush your teeth, maintain fresh breath at all times don't let hair grow down the back of your neck, trim that hideous ear and nose hair, look as sharp as you can . . . everyday as initial bad impressions linger.
I was very frank with this friend, he took my advice

That was 5 - 6 years ago.

They're both very happy to this day. :thumbsup:


It's very important to always be tidy. You don't have to make like ZZ Top > Be a sharp dressed "main", just tidy w/ good hygiene.

BT 70 - ^ This may not be applicable in your case . . just throwin' it out there. FWIW :1orglaugh

 

[Peter Gazinya]

cheating is a disgusting thing for someone to do. but sometimes you can see why. Once a month? Shiiiit.

 

[BNF]

In order to have sex with your wife, you'll need to fill out marital copulation form X37412.G65, which may allow her to retrieve the secret key, which opens the velvet lined box, which she keeps stowed away somewhere, which contains your penis, which you handed over to her when you were starry eyed and dumbstruck saying "I do".

She'll deny the existence of the form for the next 2 years.

2 years on and you'll be 30lbs heavier, she'll be equally roomy, and she will admit that there is such a form - but you need to possess a penis in order to obtain it... but, of course, it's in the box.

She'll waive the rules for one night, when you least want to do it.

She'll get pregnant from that night.

Penis box then becomes hopelessly lost.

Gain 30 more over the years and find the box 30 years later while digging a hole in the yard for her new bird feeder.

Ask for the key after preparing your "please, I want it back" speech for the next 2 years.

Receive key - without hesitation.

Open box.

Reinstall penis.

Whack away and find that it doesn't work anymore.

Curse yourself, curse your wife, curse the blue pills, curse, curse, curse.

Look over your shoulder.

See wife smirking through screen door.

 

[holdol]

Well, actually I've been married for........................^^^Yeah, what BNF said^^^ :1orglaugh :helpme:

 

[Paraniod]

Have an affair

 

[AFA]

My wife and I used to have a great sex life... before we were married. I am talking 3-4 times a week. We have been married 2 years now and I am lucky if I get it 1 time a month. We've talked about this and she doesnt think it is a problem, I have tried EVERY idea that I have to spark her interest again. She says she is still attracted to me, but is just too tired to have sex.
Ladies, care to shed some light on this? Guys, any help?
I wouldnt even look at porn if I was getting laid more.

Jeeze. This isn't my ex wife is it?

So without a continuing session with a marriage counselor who will point out what is who's responsiblity in this failing relationship and ask you to make mature and intelligent decisions, you wanted to get and trust what advice from Freeone's? (Or AFA at $300 an hour?)

BTW, welcome to the board. I see this is your very first post. What a doozey!

 

[thepornguy]

I have heard, statistically speaking, on average, married couples have more sex during the first six months than they do the following 40 years.

 

[Legzman]

I've got the same problem and we're not even married!:eek:

All I can say is THANK GOD for internet porn!!!