BlkHawk
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I don't like funerals, I haven't been to one in ten years, I don't want one when I die. I don't want my last memory of a loved one to be of their dead body in a coffin, I want to remember their life. When I mourn I don't want to be surrounded by a group of people, for me it is something private, not something I wish to share. I prefer to share memories of their life, rather than sharing the sadness of their loss.
Is that wrong? Is it selfish to not be there for others who want to mourn with the group?
I know in the past my absence has caused people to believe I am disrespectful, or didn't care enough for the deceased to say goodbye. That's not the reason I don't go, as I said above, I want my goodbye to be private, I want my memories to be of their life.
Thoughts, am I selfish, and an ass? Do I have the right to mourn in my own way?
Is that wrong? Is it selfish to not be there for others who want to mourn with the group?
I know in the past my absence has caused people to believe I am disrespectful, or didn't care enough for the deceased to say goodbye. That's not the reason I don't go, as I said above, I want my goodbye to be private, I want my memories to be of their life.
Thoughts, am I selfish, and an ass? Do I have the right to mourn in my own way?
