on here alot, but in life..im 25 and still live at home..been successful but life has hit me hard. loved ones dying, and having to make sacrifices. it seems like on here some people like what i post, but most people strive to make fun of me, or make me feel stupid. idk thats just how i feel... i love this place, and love the people i interact with, i guess its just one of those times i feel like crap for not ever doing anything with the opportunities life has thrown my way so far...
i feel like im a joke...
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Supafly
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Hello, my digital friend 
Here is a song about people in your situation:
'You're still young, that's your fault, there's so much you have to know'
But seriously, I was born some 22 years before you, and I can say:
Don't Panic!
You do not have to be out of your family's house by a given time, you do not have to part company with them just because everybody else seems to do this.
The thing about opportunites is:
You have to make your opportunites, they very rarely come someone's way.
If you, say, want to get into a career as a music business person, read everything you can about it, read interviews (or watch them on youtube etc), and check if there are radiostations or record companies and studios in your area. Dress neat and go there and ask if they have errands to do, you want to learn about the biz. They always are in need of some add-on guys that do the footwork.
Do you know 'Tubular Bells', by Mike Oldfield? That is one classic and extremly well-selling album. He was a little studio technician at a studio, and as hestayed late nights and did the chores they gave him, he recorded that, bit by bit. Look him up on Wikipedia
So, my point is: Go out and start doing your thing. It can be a blessing to have a home base you can come back to, until you take off and fly on your own. Too few people care about family values today.
Here is a song about people in your situation:
'You're still young, that's your fault, there's so much you have to know'
But seriously, I was born some 22 years before you, and I can say:
Don't Panic!
You do not have to be out of your family's house by a given time, you do not have to part company with them just because everybody else seems to do this.
The thing about opportunites is:
You have to make your opportunites, they very rarely come someone's way.
If you, say, want to get into a career as a music business person, read everything you can about it, read interviews (or watch them on youtube etc), and check if there are radiostations or record companies and studios in your area. Dress neat and go there and ask if they have errands to do, you want to learn about the biz. They always are in need of some add-on guys that do the footwork.
Do you know 'Tubular Bells', by Mike Oldfield? That is one classic and extremly well-selling album. He was a little studio technician at a studio, and as hestayed late nights and did the chores they gave him, he recorded that, bit by bit. Look him up on Wikipedia
So, my point is: Go out and start doing your thing. It can be a blessing to have a home base you can come back to, until you take off and fly on your own. Too few people care about family values today.
PlasmaTwa2
The Second-Hottest Man in my Mother's Basement
Welcome to the bus stop. Sorry you're here, as they say.
you only problem is that you care too much what people think. fuck other people's affirmation.
I'm not lying or joking when I say this, you need to go get some professional help. Go see your doctor. You sound depressed. I know. I was down that road already. Same shit as you. It only gets worse the more you let it go untreated so GO GET HELP!!!. Depression is some shit you don't wanna fuck with.
Agree with this... you can learn ways to handle what you're feeling. And as pointed out, all is not hopeless though it may seem that way sometimes... you are young and believe it or now, having a rough road in life makes you stronger and wiser in the long run if you keep the right attitude
No, my friend, you've hit yourself a lot harder than life has. You must understand that life throws hundreds, sometimes thousands of opportunities your way and you really only gotta catch one. However, to do that, you must be in the game.
You said it yourself: I feel stupid... I feel like crap... It seems like you feel and know a lot of things negative about yourself so much you can easily post it in a thread. I'm not sorry for your losses, as everyone takes them, but I am sorry for the effects they're having on you. I would agree with going to talk to somebody about your state of mind. There is nothing wrong or embarrassing about gaining a new perspective on things through discussions with a professional and venting a little bit.
If you change what you know, you change what you do.
Change what you do, and you change how you feel.
You're 25. How many opportunities can you have really squandered by now?:1orglaugh Even if you did...again, you're 25.
If you're sitting around with your thumb up your ass bemoaning your circumstances without prospects nor a plan for changing it, then you are a joke.
However, if it's the case that you are regrouping and biding your time with a plan what's the problem?
If the prospects you believe you squandered in the past were products of your work, then why can't you create more of them?
Take care of your own business and don't worry about what people say or think. You do that, you'll have the last laugh anyway.:dunno:
If you're sitting around with your thumb up your ass bemoaning your circumstances without prospects nor a plan for changing it, then you are a joke.
However, if it's the case that you are regrouping and biding your time with a plan what's the problem?
If the prospects you believe you squandered in the past were products of your work, then why can't you create more of them?
Take care of your own business and don't worry about what people say or think. You do that, you'll have the last laugh anyway.:dunno:
PirateKing
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Pfftt...the problem is you care too much. You're your own worst enemy, stop weighing yourself down with all these doubts. Even though you're "just" 25, things aren't gonna get better if you keep devaluing yourself. The only thing I can do for you is tell you what you need to do. It's up to you to overcome these limitations you've imposed on yourself. For fucks sake the world isn't that scary. So what if people laugh at you? Stop wallowing in despair and kick some ass.
Nothing here is real or serious. If someone calls you a fuckhead, respond with "I only let you fuck my ear once." If you get bent out of shape, an internet forum is not the place for you.
i felt that way when i started to turn 24-25... i feel ya, people diein' and stuff and livin at home.. especially when i was laid off at 24 have u ever considered going to school? cuz thats one thing that helped me. its keeps me focused, i have a goal and ur surrounded by females for a good portion of the day... might as well go to school since ur living at home anyways... i see it as a oppurtunity... i couldnt imagine starting from the bottom at some job all over again... i plan on startin a carrer at this point .. dont trip itll get better...enjoy your life... at least if your not doing anything at least try and have fun get out and do some shit..
PirateKing
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Do you only let people fuck your ear once? Or are you just posing a hypothetical comeback for him?
Because I'd like another go at your ear.
Each ear only once. You have one left.
Don't sweat it bro, life is what you make of it!
Go for it______:thumbsup:
Go for it______:thumbsup:
meesterperfect
Hiliary 2020
I was feeling that way once , plus I thought I had stomach cancer....and a guy told me this:
Look at it this way. A man takes a job, you know? And that job - I mean, like that - That becomes what he is. You know, like - You do a thing and that's what you are. Like I've been a cabbie for thirteen years. Ten years at night. I still don't own my own cab. You know why? Because I don't want to. That must be what I want. To be on the night shift drivin' somebody else's cab. You understand? I mean, you become - You get a job, you become the job. One guy lives in Brooklyn. One guy lives in Sutton Place. You got a lawyer. Another guy's a doctor. Another guy dies. Another guy gets well. People are born, y'know? I envy you, your youth. Go on, get laid, get drunk. Do anything. You got no choice, anyway. I mean, we're all fucked. More or less, ya know.
Don't-think-so-much.
I agree with most of the advice people are giving you, plus its always good if you have a person to talk to or share your feelings. If you keep all your problems bottled up, that shit will eventually explode! Get a hobby or do something that make's you happy, I suggest gardening or go fishing something outdoors like hiking always makes me feel good, I know this sounds repetitive but find a nice girl and get your pp wet :dunno:
Ive also had to deal with death of people close to me, here's a quote that helped me.
“God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.” - Reinhold Niebuhr
Ive also had to deal with death of people close to me, here's a quote that helped me.
“God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.” - Reinhold Niebuhr
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