How the hardcore porn industry is ruining young men's lives...

[Petra]

We should be taking porn very seriously. Studies show that the more porn men watch, the more they want to play out porn sex in the real world. They become bored with their sex partners because they don't look or act like the women in porn. What troubles many of these men most is that they need to pull up the porn images in their head in order to have an orgasm with their partner. They replay porn scenes in their minds, or think about having sex with their favourite porn star when they are with their partners.

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So, is hardcore porn ruining your lives?

 

[Roald]

Yes!

 

[Petra]

Yes!

It can't ruin something that was already fucked up. :2 cents:

 

[hedonis]

Well, I'm not a young man, but I don't feel like even when I was that it ruined any part of my life. In fact, to the contrary, I think it made me a much more open-minded sexual being, and introduced me to lots of stuff that I otherwise might never have tried.

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[pool_hustler]

It can't ruin something that was already fucked up. :2 cents:

:rofl:

but seriously, I think it CAN create unrealistic expectations, particularly for younger males. And the misogynistic tenor to a lot of today's porn is also troubling.

As far as this goes

"They become bored with their sex partners because they don't look....like the women in porn."

Not really buying this one. Porn stars are rarely mainstream cinema or model quality beauties. Idealized female images are created and pushed much harder by other industries.

 

[yoicham]

...says the most profitable porn today is that which depicts hardcore, body-punishing sex - called "Gonzo" by the industry.

I thought Gonzo was something else, like the actors in the scene interacted with the camera/cameraman.

I can't stand videos where the girl (even though she has a smile on her face) is getting rammed so hard that permanent damage is imminent. I cringe when I see violent hardcore porn. I generally prefer softer and more sensual hardcore scenes.

As per the question, I would say no because I only conjure up porn images in my mind when I've made a mistake due to beer goggles.

Best quote:

The man "makes hate" to the woman

 

[Supafly]

Well, the young people today ARE changing. As a social worker, I have witnessed a lot of it. In kindergarten, there were 4- and 5-yearolds discussing porn videos they watched as there older brothers had them sitting besides them surfing or watching video cassettes. There are more and more children who do things like group blowjob sessions in youthcenters, when there's no adult around, etc.

This video report is in german language, sadly, bur it shows a lot of what is going on:







Mind you, I am all for talking openly about sexuality with children, so they can learn it is okay to feel good about their own body and that they should have control about what they want and what not, and what to do if they don't want something.

But watching hardcore sex is not in that agenda.

 

[Roald]

As far as this goes

"They become bored with their sex partners because they don't look....like the women in porn."

Not really buying this one. Porn stars are rarely mainstream cinema or model quality beauties. Idealized female images are created and pushed much harder by other industries.

Agreed, Hollywood and fashion companies are to blame for the fucked up self image tons of girls have.

 

[Roald]

Petra[/URL][/B], post: 5693359, member: 114093"]It can't ruin something that was already fucked up. :2 cents:

neg rep! :2 cents:

 

[BlueBalls]

Me thinks, Gail Dines just needs a good deep dicking.

 

[PirateKing]

I've said it once and I'll say it again: these "journalists" are just crying sour grapes.

Petra[/URL][/B], post: 5693359, member: 114093"]It can't ruin something that was already fucked up. :2 cents:

 

[mteunissen]

Nope - for several reason that I'm not going to talk about..

 

[bustybbwlover]

i think of porn as a supplement, like vitamins

 

[ICanHasLogin]

It does set up some unrealistic expectations.
I had the cable installer over, a pizza delivered, the air conditioning repaired and I didn't have sex once!

 

[Neutron66]

What they're not taking into account is the fact that these days most girls are just as aware of porn as guys, so getting a girl to have "porn style" sex isn't that hard.

 

[D-rock]

I can see where it might create unrealistic expectations and false concepts of reality...or just make people act stupid.

I can indeed see how things can get out of hand when you take kids and young adults who are already sort of out of touch with reality because they are young and you combine it with a lot of the dumb crap, gimmicks, and stunts they put in porn a lot more today. It's even worse when you add in the misogyny that's increased from how it was in porn of the past. I'm sure there are quite a few people, young men especially, that think what happens in a lot of the more ridiculous porn is closer to the norm than it already is. Adding in them wanting or expecting it and I can see it getting worse still.

What's even worse is it's usually a subject that will very rarely get talked about with them by more mature people. We're getting to the point where parents might be more open to talking to their kids about sex because it's their responsibility to do so than ever before, and we teach the physical and technical aspects of at school in sexual education classes, but I bet it's pretty rare for somebody to explain that what happens in porn videos, especially a lot of porn of today (not that the porn of the past was always great in this area either), is very often a pretty ridiculous and stupid and that they shouldn't act that way or base their lives on what happens to it.

It should also be explained that a lot of what goes on in porn now is a process that has been going on for decades (and especially since the late 90s or 00s where the producers have tried to continually one up each other creating ever more stupid, demeaning, unnatural, unrealistic, misogyny, gimmicky, or other ridiculous aspects that often involve even more ridiculous circus acts in a manner to quickly cash in on a quick buck from people a small number of porn fans that were stupid, vocal, and were willing to see it for that reason and pay more. What a lot of people, especially a good amount of young men, need is a metaphorical (or maybe even literal) slap across the head and to told to grow up, start acting like a real man, and to be told that most of that isn't how it works in real life, that it's often just stupid, and to not expect let alone demand the women they are with to conform to that. Even most of the better porn is pretty much just fantasy and isn’t something that’s real or that most relationships should be based on.

The best porn that hasn’t verged in the range of stupidity is still only fantasy or eye candy and usually little more. The worst of porn is just trash. Not that fantasy is always bad. It’s why we read books and watch movies and television shows, and play games all about other subjects. In the end we have to realize that’s what it really is though. It's one of those things where if one can keep a decent mindset and have a reasonable concept of reality it isn't that bad if you see porn for what it is. If one can't do those things...

 

[SabrinaDeep]

Like all those young men who set a family up and took a mortgage and saw their house, money and job vanished through the hands and minds of now government financed bankers? Or like all those young men who buried themselves in debt to study in order to get a decent position in the society just to find themselves unemployed and with the above debt to repay for the next 20 years?

 

[prof_porn]

Porn is awesome!

 

[CunningStunts]

I can see where it might create unrealistic expectations and false concepts of reality...or just make people act stupid.

I can indeed see how things can get out of hand when you take kids and young adults who are already sort of out of touch with reality because they are young and you combine it with a lot of the dumb crap, gimmicks, and stunts they put in porn a lot more today. It's even worse when you add in the misogyny that's increased from how it was in porn of the past. I'm sure there are quite a few people, young men especially, that think what happens in a lot of the more ridiculous porn is closer to the norm than it already is. Adding in them wanting or expecting it and I can see it getting worse still.

What's even worse is it's usually a subject that will very rarely get talked about with them by more mature people. We're getting to the point where parents might be more open to talking to their kids about sex because it's their responsibility to do so than ever before, and we teach the physical and technical aspects of at school in sexual education classes, but I bet it's pretty rare for somebody to explain that what happens in porn videos, especially a lot of porn of today (not that the porn of the past was always great in this area either), is very often a pretty ridiculous and stupid and that they shouldn't act that way or base their lives on what happens to it.

It should also be explained that a lot of what goes on in porn now is a process that has been going on for decades (and especially since the late 90s or 00s where the producers have tried to continually one up each other creating ever more stupid, demeaning, unnatural, unrealistic, misogyny, gimmicky, or other ridiculous aspects that often involve even more ridiculous circus acts in a manner to quickly cash in on a quick buck from people a small number of porn fans that were stupid, vocal, and were willing to see it for that reason and pay more. What a lot of people, especially a good amount of young men, need is a metaphorical (or maybe even literal) slap across the head and to told to grow up, start acting like a real man, and to be told that most of that isn't how it works in real life, that it's often just stupid, and to not expect let alone demand the women they are with to conform to that. Even most of the better porn is pretty much just fantasy and isn’t something that’s real or that most relationships should be based on.

The best porn that hasn’t verged in the range of stupidity is still only fantasy or eye candy and usually little more. The worst of porn is just trash. Not that fantasy is always bad. It’s why we read books and watch movies and television shows, and play games all about other subjects. In the end we have to realize that’s what it really is though. It's one of those things where if one can keep a decent mindset and have a reasonable concept of reality it isn't that bad if you see porn for what it is. If one can't do those things...

Solid post. I think young men who aren't prepared for the raw sexuality of porn will be negatively impacted by viewing it.

 

[grower_boy]

:rofl:As far as this goes

"They become bored with their sex partners because they don't look....like the women in porn."

Not really buying this one. Porn stars are rarely mainstream cinema or model quality beauties. Idealized female images are created and pushed much harder by other industries.

There are plenty of women I'd go for in real life that I wouldn't want to see in a porno, and vice versa. So that quote was most certainly grade A bullshit.

As is this whole article. I can watch "Gonzo" porn all day and it doesn't mean I'm going to view romantic sex that way. When I think about actually having sex with a woman, it's nothing like that but I won't get into that. Porn is just....porn. And it's fuckin' awesome, and people are always trying to say otherwise.