for the first time in my life...

[squallumz]

i actually came in my girlfriend with the intent of getting her pregnant last night. it was her idea too. i feel so different! and a little nervous. it wasnt those heat of the moment things either.

these are my last moments of the single life possibly. how should i live them up? she wants to get married. and i mean soon. mayish. she said she feels great about it, am i in the ok to have cold feet? is it normal?

 

[alexios]

Just relax, think things over, reflect, and the answer will come to you.

 

[Roughneck]

Is it ok to be semi-flipping out knowing you may or may not be a Father?

Is it ok to be semi-losing it deciding if you want to be married to this angel on earth?


1. First check your pulse. Make sure you're alive
2. Look in the mirror. Do you see you, a human being, or something else?

If you answered "yes" to the above questions - you're a-ok

It's perfectly normal to feel squeamish, nervous and generally restless when facing a life changing situation.


cheers,

 

[squallumz]

as cliche as that sounds, youre both right. i havent really relaxed since. i keep looking at her and imaging what could possibly be going on in her. ive asked her, how do u feel? you ok? blah blah. she seems cool as a cucumber. its just so different from the days where You Might have accidentally done it, to when you purposely did it.

 

[Torre82]

as cliche as that sounds, youre both right. i havent really relaxed since. i keep looking at her and imaging what could possibly be going on in her. ive asked her, how do u feel? you ok? blah blah. she seems cool as a cucumber. its just so different from the days where You Might have accidentally done it, to when you purposely did it.

If you have a social life, with single, unmarried, childless friends.. you've got about 9 months to get over them all. Kids and marriage will make you a pariah faster than beating an umbrella on your ex's SUV while the paparazzi is watching.

 

[Roughneck]

its just so different from the days where You Might have accidentally done it, to when you purposely did it.

*ahem* While both my kids were "accidents" - I doubt it's any 'different' from planned pregnancies.

If she's pregnant, it is enough - the "how" really becomes irrelevant at that point of time...
If you don't believe me, wait untill you have a positive pregnancy test result. We'll talk then

By the way: That you "marry"* or not - you better be sticking by this lady, else you got no business making babies with her!


cheers,

*: I lean towards "make a commitment to her". You call it marriage or you call it anything else - it doesn't matter... the commitment, however; matters.

 

[dave_rhino]

*ahem* While both my kids were "accidents" - I doubt it's any 'different' from planned pregnancies.

I think he means the actual act of making the child, not the child itself. And i can see what he means, it must feel pretty "wierd" the first time. But good wierd :thumbsup:

 

[Roughneck]

I think he means the actual act of making the child, not the child itself.

I know that was what he meant.

Changes nothing from my post, truth be told.

cheers,

 

[Iamforever]

i actually came in my girlfriend with the intent of getting her pregnant last night. it was her idea too. i feel so different! and a little nervous. it wasnt those heat of the moment things either.

is she does get pregnant, congrats.

it could be worse. believe me. :2 cents:

 

[MADIronMaiden]

Having a baby = Less Freeones!:rofl:

Just kidding, I think its great! If she gets pregnant then congratulations!

 

[squallumz]

If she's pregnant, it is enough - the "how" really becomes irrelevant at that point of time...
If you don't believe me, wait untill you have a positive pregnancy test result. We'll talk then

By the way: That you "marry"* or not - you better be sticking by this lady, else you got no business making babies with her!


cheers,

*: I lean towards "make a commitment to her". You call it marriage or you call it anything else - it doesn't matter... the commitment, however; matters.

ive been committed to her for a long time now, i never would have done this with a girl i wasnt gonna stick by. the only times ive ever done it in my girlfriends was when they were on the shot which works like a charm. (the pill sucks)

ive been through accidental pregnancy scares in the past (most with you know who, fox), but this time its really different to me. i was worried back then, but im not sure what i am now. i wouldnt exactly say worried or scared..

thanks for everyones kind words. you guys rock! :spin:

 

[DOA82]

Why would you have gotten her pregnant outside of marriage anyway? Rather than it becoming a reason to get married. Do you want married? Did you want kids? Are you having kids for the right reasons?

 

[squallumz]

Why would you have gotten her pregnant outside of marriage anyway? Rather than it becoming a reason to get married. Do you want married? Did you want kids? Are you having kids for the right reasons?

it is not the reason we are getting married. hell no! thats what everyone does, but not us. weve been talking about marriage for a long time now, and a lot more the last couple of months. and the same with children, weve been discussing for a long long time.

dont worry, we're not kids who dont know what the real world is or anything. and the reason she wanted me to do that is because she loves me and wants to, and i feel the same way. if she is pregnant or not, we are still getting married.

 

[Legzman]

Having a baby = Less Freeones!:rofl:

Just kidding, I think its great! If she gets pregnant then congratulations!

Would mean more freeones for me...Stay at home dad baby!!! :nanner: :nanner: :nanner:

 

[bigbadbrody]

At least you meant to do it

Do not end up like your fellow member BBB, no one will ever want to go through what I had to go through

 

[Legzman]

At least you meant to do it

Do not end up like your fellow member BBB, no one will ever want to go through what I had to go through

what I miss?

 

[bigbadbrody]

what I miss?

oh, you didnt miss a single thing

I was just saying, that at least he meant to cum in his girlfriend and not do it by mistake.

because I know this from experience, unfortunately:crying:

 

[KittyKat]

It's going to be scary - the thought that you could have possibly made a lil' life and on purpose. Yep, definitely a scary thought. But you do seem to have thought this through, so good luck

 

[squallumz]

It's going to be scary - the thought that you could have possibly made a lil' life and on purpose. Yep, definitely a scary thought. But you do seem to have thought this through, so good luck

yeah, its been thought through. we are shopping for a ring right now, and after that.. hoo boy. shes way happy. im feeling better but still nervous. how many days after can you test anyway? stupid question but..

 

[rebeccalover707]

Hey, if you wish to start a family with her, then go ahead by all means. Just be sure to give your child-to-be a loving home.