Does good sex matter?

[STDiva]

Here is a scenario for you.

You are having great sex with a fuck buddy and you are having it often. She gives great head, knows how to fuck and blah blah blah. But you eventually meet someone you think could be a potential "one" so you call off the fuck buddy. For now.

The girl you met is super fun, smart, exciting etc. You enjoy being around them and yadda yadda yadda. Let's say, 2 months into the relationship you sleep together, and she is the worst lay you've ever had. She just lays there, doesn't know how to touch you, is self conscious about herself and never wants to have sex.

What do you do? Go back to the girl who picks you up from the bar so she can fuck your brains out? Or stay with the girl who is perfect in every sense except underneath the sheets?Do you stay with the girl, and try to help her open up, feel good about herself and enjoy sex more, or ditch her before it gets serious and back to the girl who knows what she's doing?

Me personally...I would probably break it off, and start back up with the fuck buddy again. Good sex is over rated until you've had it on call whenever you want it. After that, there is no going back.

What about you?? What would YOU do??

 

[24788]

Well be happy for maybe 2 hours max a day or happy all day if she is really that great.

Plus it's not one of those things she can't learn at.

 

[GregCentauro]

Mind over body. I'm not 18 anymore.

Besides: No girl could shag half as well as I can wank.

 

[cocklover]

Well, I'd say that sex is an integral part of a healthy relationship and if a couple if having bad sex, there's nothing to really bond with. I've had my fair share of good and bad sex and I can honestly say it plays a big role in my life.

And to the guys who do the scenario 2, please don't lol. Most of my girlfriends tell me that they love to be given the opportunity to be a real woman, if you know what I mean.

 

[JacknCoke]

Mind over body. I'm not 18 anymore.

Besides: No girl could shag half as well as I can wank.

hahaha, always pull through in the clutch when we need an outrageous answer.

Forget about the fuck buddy. They are not worth the trouble in the end...

 

[titsrock]

This is the Prisoner's Dilemma. Or should we call it The Bachelor's Dilemma?

There is no right or wrong answer.

For me, I would gut it out with "the one" and work my hardest to get her to feel more sexually liberated. This can mean slow stuff like hanging out at the beach together or by a pool where our bodies are in constant view of each other. Then maybe we join a gym together and workout. The perfect girl will still get horny and it's just a matter of timing her horny moments so you can use them as "teachable/fuckable" moments....

 

[Rey C.]

^^^ Yeah, the Miss Right vs. Miss Right Now! thing.

After being engaged to someone who I thought was The One or Miss Right, I came to realize (after we broke up) that there is no such thing as a Miss Right or The One. There are lots of Miss Rights and lots of The Ones. You just have to take the time to look for them.

But anyway, in this case, I don't know. I'm with someone now. We're not in love, but we like each other very much. I don't see her as a "fuck buddy", but our relationship seems to have as much to do with sex as anything else. In my mind, it's more likely that I'd try to turn the "fuck buddy" into a more meaningful relationship, than it would be that I'd be with someone where there are intimacy issues right up front.

But like Titsrocks said, there is no right or wrong answer.

 

[Tongue Punch]

Absolutely, good sex matters. I've only had one partner that I would actually desire to have sex with again because I know how enjoyable it is, and the relationship we had was fantastic.

 

[atxraised]

Well I think good sex can be taught. It's not like a skill that some have and some don't. Usually a good lay has more to do with attitude and not just oral or the way she works your rod. In my experience I had both extremes and of course you prefer the better lay but just cuz she does it better doesn't mean that you're the only one getting the good lay. There may be others that may think that she's alright or even awful lol!

 

[~~whimsy~~]

As long as you have a cucumber on your side of the bed, it is all good, she won't know any better...

 

[ChefChiTown]

The "quality" of sex doesn't (well, SHOULDN'T) mean a fucking thing, especially to a relationship. Who cares if your girlfriend is great at giving you blowjobs or if your husband can make you cum 3 times in a row? I don't know about anyone else, but even if my girlfriend was the worst lover in the world, it wouldn't get in the way of how I felt about her. The quality of sex is the most over-rated, useless and ultimately hurtful aspect to judge a relationship by. Unfortunately, a lot of people are selfish morons who think that great sex is the most important thing in the world, so...:dunno:

 

[Smallville417]

I always would go with the relationship, even if the sex was not the greatest. And like others said, it's something that can be worked on. Relationships that were strictly about sex were never my thing though. I was worried a little about my current girlfriend when she was discussing with me her attitudes about sex (not being into it), and she gives me the best sex I ever had.

 

[jasonk282]

Good sex can be taught if YOUR willing to put the effort into it.

 

[Ashleigh]

I'd pick the good relationship. Fuck buddies aren't forever. One day your fuck buddy will fall in love with "Mr Perfect" and ditch your ass faster than you can say huzzah. A woman can be the best lay ever, but at the end of the day, she's still just using you until the right guy comes along and once he does, you're left out in the cold with no sex, no partner. So...I'd pick the perfect girl, one who, if they don't 100% satisfy you at the end of the day sexually, they at least make you feel like you're worth a million bucks. And yes, sex is something EVERY couple improves on over time

 

[Baill Inneraora]

Good sex can be taught if YOUR willing to put the effort into it.

Well said