Did you learn from your mom how to....

[bodie54]

Interesting thread
Good question LL

I've been very lucky. My mother is most definitely not a saint, but she is an exceptional human being. I doubt there's a person that's ever known her who wouldn't agree. While practical matters were more (though nowhere near exclusively) my father's province to teach, the more important matters of the heart and soul were almost exclusively my mother's. She's getting up there in years now, and from time to time I make it a point to thank her for having been such a good model for living.

I knew how to do some basic housework from a pretty early age - part of a group of regular chores both indoor and out - but I didn't have a clue about 1) cooking or 2) laundry until she gave me a crash course shortly before I left for college.

 

[hi75]

interesting..

 

[Roughneck]

My parents were around during the Great Depression. My Father met my Mother six months before WWII began. Father served as an infantryman with the Fifth Marine Regiment - suffering his fifth and final wound on Okinawa (having survived against the odds at Peleilu and Guadalcanal before that).

My mother wrote to him every week.

It was hard growing up with my Father. He was a good man. Believed in discipline, honesty and truth. He loved us all and he cared deeply about each and every one of us. But he had a hard time expressing it. He was somewhat emotionally distant.

He still is to this very day.

So my mother became the rock and anchor of our little family. And as the oldest boy, I was often drafted by mother into helping her raise my younger brother and sister.

My mother taught me about love - I watched my mother support my Father through his PTSD and Depression. His night terrors. His constant aches, pains and partial deafness from the result of war wounds. His feelings of insecurity and guilt at putting such a burden on his young wife. My mother was not only his wife; she was his confidant, his counselor and his nurse.

My mother taught me that all life is precious - be it another human being or the plants in the garden. I developed a liking for gardening from my mother. We kept any strays that wandered onto our property - I grew up taking care of cats, dogs, birds of assorted color size and age.

From my mother's efforts, I inherited my love of reading. My mother didn't have much of an education... she could just read and write. But she was adamant that her children get the best education around.

I learned the sundry tasks of running a household just simply by helping mother raise my younger siblings.

Both my mother and father were unforgiving taskmasters. I learned about responsibility - and learned it well. They both instilled in me to appreciate hard work, discipline and honesty.


My dear mother passed away too soon - 1976. Not long after I got back from Vietnam. I had a very difficult time readjusting after discharge and I was not there by her side to comfort her. She kept asking about me till her last breath.

I regret not being there.
A regret I have till this very day.


Thanks for the thread LL.

cheers,

 

[Mr. Daystar]

I learned most of my cooking skills from my mom...I can make a pasta sauce that will make your eyes roll back in your head, and a moan escape your lips. Other then that not much...she wouldn't let me near her washer and dryer. But she was a great mom...she raised me alone from 3yrs old on...I miss her a lot.

 

[bigbadbrody]

My mother taught me:

How to cook
How to sew-up and fix my clothes
How to clean a House from top to bottom
How to read
etc...

My father taught me:

How to ride my bicycle
How to mow the lawn and do yard work
The Birds and the Bees ( disturbing but mandatory)
How to balance a check book and file all of my important papers
How to belch real loud and long
etc...

My father tried to teach me:

How to cook
How to fix a car
How to use power tools
How to drink beer
How to drive a car

I ended up failing theses lessons

I taught my folks:

How to not embarass the hell out of me
That a hug or a kiss in a public place is not acceptable
that your shorts have to hang lower than your boxer shorts (my dad)
that you never wear black socks with sandals (my dad)
How to use a computer
how to do mathematics (my mother)

 

[Philbert]

Like everyone else, I learned a lot of "how to"s from my parents...both tried to give me instructions, and ended up teaching me more by example.
I learned a lot more about what my parents taught me, as I grew older and saw for myself.
In the end, my Mom taught me the biggest lesson of all...you can tell who you were, and what you meant, by who comes to your funeral.

Before I pass on to the other place, I'm gonna drop by and see how I done.

 

[pussypoppa]

My momma taught me that "Life is like a box of chocolates"....

 

[Icola]

this is funny but its not supposed to be a joke but my mom taught my to never put my hands down my pants even if its comfortable, she taught me how to cook, clean/laundry and respect.

 

[Kingfisher]

I learned a lot from my mom, cooking, cleaning, handwriting... She was a very strong willed woman, tough. Once some guy came too close to her in his car, when entering a parking lot, she was walking on the sidewalk, she went psycho on the guy. I learned a lot from her, then one day she had a tiny anurism, not enough to kill her, but gave her a stroke that wiped a lot of her long term memories and stuff. She is still doing pretty good, but doesn't remember a whole lot.

 

[member006]

I learned a lot from my mom, cooking, cleaning, handwriting... She was a very strong willed woman, tough. Once some guy came too close to her in his car, when entering a parking lot, she was walking on the sidewalk, she went psycho on the guy. I learned a lot from her, then one day she had a tiny anurism, not enough to kill her, but gave her a stroke that wiped a lot of her long term memories and stuff. She is still doing pretty good, but doesn't remember a whole lot.

I know exactly how you feel. I also want to say I'm so glad that she is doing well. It is great thing knowing that even though she has forgotten many things, that she shared them with you. Passed on memories and skills, social as well as basic knowledge and domestic skills are so very important. That you in turn can now pass on. We all learn so much more at home then we ever do at school I think.

Thank you to all for posting in this thread. I have enjoyed the read very much.

LL

 

[GHO57]

Nope.

I learned to cook from my dad. Cleaning I picked up all by myself , had to, I was (technically) living with my father (he was in country just a few months each year) ever since I was 14, I either cleaned or lived in filth.

Oh, and I still don't know how to treat women, I have a propensity to view them as people and treat them as I treat everyone... well, to be honest I rarely do compliment male friends on their looks...

If I happen to spawn a son, I will definately teach him the essentials for survival and the proper way to treat people.

I turned out to be quite a nice guy, even if I say so myself

 

[member006]

*bump* AsianxxxChick made me think of this thread. A lot of new members now, so maybe a few new inputs on the issue?

 

[Ax3C]

*bump* AsianxxxChick made me think of this thread. A lot of new members now, so maybe a few new inputs on the issue?

And I'm glad you bumped it, too.

To answer:

My Mom taught me how to be self-sufficient, independent, and how to be a man.

I was taught to sew, cook, mend my trousers and shirts (buttons, zippers, and hems), wash, dry, starch, and iron my own clothes by the time I was 13. She taught me everything that I needed to know to prepare for life outside of "home".

My Dad ... he worked shift work at an oil/gas refinery, so I didn't see him as often as maybe some other kids see their fathers, but he was also very much a constant in my life. He taught me the value of a hard day's work, sweating my ass off in the broiling sun. I was made to get a job by the time I was fifteen. I worked for a landscaping company and then a flower / plant nursery all the way through high school. I bought my own clothes, paid for all of my school supplies, saved money up for my first car (a '73 Chevy Nova ... ahhhh) and knew what it meant to earn a living working with my hands.

But it was my Mom ... it was she who taught me how to be a man. And God knows I wish she could see me now.

 

[dave_rhino]

But it was my Mom ... it was she who taught me how to be a man. And God knows I wish she could see me now.

I have no doubt she'd be damn proud of you :thumbsup:

 

[cabey]

I taught myself to cook,

the military taught me how to sew and iron,

my dad (rip) taught me about family values and gave me strong work ethics,

my mother taught me to appreciate music and not to trust life to religion, indeed she thought John Lennon had it right in his beliefs of one love.

My mother and father came from humble beginnings, being born during WW2 and brought up in poverty, together they taught their 3 sons, myself being the youngest, that life is what you make it and the good things don't come without sacrificing blood, sweat and tears. That Seseme Street/ Disney Bullshit of wanting it hard enough and you shall recieve gets you nothing.

That foundation has enabled me to get where i am now with no help financial or otherwise, but gained with my intellect and strength.

 

[member006]

*bump*A lot of new members now, so maybe a few new inputs on the subject?

Anyone?

LL

 

[squallumz]

my mom really didnt teach me outright, i remember always asking her what she was doing and how. i went to her. i have a several younger sisters and am the only boy and the oldest so i really learned everything by observation at first then helping. my mother was a strong force and wasnt the type to wait on anyone hand and foot.

so, im a great cook now and i consider myself in touch with my feminine side (for lack of a better phrase). i know everything there is about raising children without actually having any yet and know everything about raising girls up through adulthood.

 

[Roughneck]

Anyone?

LL

Hmm. An interesting thing to ask my wife and my son...

Thanks for the reminder, LL

cheers,

 

[Bigoldowls]

My mother taught me precisely nothing.

 

[Facetious]

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