Did you learn from your m-m how to....

[member006]

Now that I have your attention please stay with me.

As I walk these hallowed halls daily with all of you great gentlemen, I can't help but wonder about a few things. I didn't have brothers and have no sons, so like many of you are with women some things about men are a mystery to me.

Through the strong testosterone scent and sexual prowess, up pop some things that I would like to inquire about.

First in what I hope to be a few threads, I want to first ask as the title implies. What did your ****** teach you? I have often wondered what ******* of sons do. My ex-husbands ****** waited on him and his ****** hand and foot he didn't know how to do anything domestic. He couldn't have survived without going straight from her to me. He was a mans man, afraid of showing any feminin side. Had he been sent on his own to make his way in the world he wouldn't have made it. I taught my girls how to properly clean, cook, apply for a job, change the oil in a car and hammer a nail. All the necessities of survival so they can make it on their own. Not stopping at female stereotype jobs, but teaching things men traditionally do also.

My question to you is this, did you m-m see fit to teach you as you were coming up the basics of survival so you needn't be dependent on a woman? Cooking basics, laundry etc. ? Anything about how to treat and respect a woman ? Just as the ******* of females do for their girls. Or was everything just left to chance?

Also...

If you are a ****** of a boy, do you and your SO plan on teaching these things to your ***(s)?

Thanks in advance,
LL

 

[KungFuDude]

Sounds to me like you are challenging MY ****** and her parenting skills directly! :1orglaugh

My ****** is a saint. She is a devout catholic, school teacher, loves her ********, and husband more than anything, and would die to protect her ******. ...Ok, now that I have succesfully defended my ******'s honor from your challenge, I will tell you what you want to know...

She taught me to respect all others, how to laugh, light a grill, how to cook, do laundry, shop at the market, to drive, apply for car insurance, apply for college, gave advice. I have three older sisters, so teaching me to respect women was never an issue, it was a given. My ****** taught me everything else. Satisfied?

Now - don't be talking about my momma anymore. :nono:

 

[4G63]

My m-m and my Grandmothers taught me respect through discipline. They were very loving and caring woman, but strong more than anything. They taught me woman are equal to men, and to listen to what woman say, and they beat me without mercy, I love 'em. :lovecoupl

 

[Johan]

Yep my m-m teach me the basics : cooking the very basics (pasta, rice, potatoes, meat...) and my favorite food, so that even if I totally suck in the kitchen, il can leave alone without eating McDonald or pizza's every day. alo She teach me how to make my meals balanced.

I also learned how to keep the house quite clean, how to wash, dry and iron my clothes.

And, last but no least, i learned how to manage with all those fucking important papers, like social security, taxes, salary, bank, bills, etc...
I don't know how it is in other countries but in France admionistration is fucking complicated

 

[Calm]

My parents waited on me too but from the years of seeing her cooking (and helping once in a blue moon) I picked up a few things.

When I went into the real world it was tough at first to do the things I've never got the chance to see her do, such as do laundry, but I could easily make myself meals and clean the dishes and stuff.
I was quite overwhlemed by the amount of laundry I had to do once I didn't live with my parents; there was so much laundry that I had to do whereas until now it would just magically appear clean and folded in my closet.

My m-m didn't exactly teach me to respect women, as in talked to about it, but I did learn it from her and my ***.

When I look back I wish she'd pummle some discipline into me to make the move to real life easier, since I'm still struggling.

 

[holdol]

If I learned one thing from my m-m, it was respect of a woman. Find yourself a good woman, marry her, and love her with all your heart. She did all the cooking, cleaning etc. for a long while, till we(two younger sisters) got a little older, then the chores started. Being from an Italian ******, "the women did everything, and that was okay then" she'd say, that was then. Now I do my own laundry, cook frequently, clean often, and I'd give my soul to my wife.

My *** is being drilled on this now! Teenagers!! :dunno:

 

[Legzman]

My m-m used to whip my ass...broke a few yard sticks on me too. So through discipline, I learned respect. Also learned how to respect women by watching both my parents. I also had to do the dishes a few times a week and help cook once in awhile. I started doing my laundry on my own. So I was just fine with everything when I hit the real world...never been good with money though...slowly learning that on my own STILL, through trial and error. Beleive I answered your question though LL!

 

[epic]

my m-m has tought me lots and lots of things when i was a *****.. nearly every boy learns the most things from their ******; because, you know, male ******** are usually spend much more time with their moms, rather than their ****..
but the most notable thing my ****** tought to me is how to survive, which helped during my 2 years of school +1000 miles away from my ******..

 

[Christmas_Ape]

Well, dear old ***** (rest his soul), he left my m-m a heavy load. She tried so very hard to fill his shoes. She worked hours without rest. She wanted me to have the best. She tried to raise me right, but I refused.
And I turned 21 in prison doing life without parole. No one could steer me right, but moma tried, moma tried. Moma tried to raide me better, but her pleading I denied. That leaves no one for to blame, cause moma tried.
(true story) :shock:

 

[D-rock]

I'll admit that most of the things I have learned from my parents came from my ******. It wasn't as much as she didn't have any skill than my ****** was always better at teaching me things, and more talented. Plus he was the disciplinarian, and could make most drill sergeants look mild, so he usually was the one to instruct me. I have been relatively self sufficient as long as I can remember, at least as much as was always possible for the circumstances I have been put in. Not being able to do things like cook and clean is a foreign concept to me as well as having to rely on somebody else just to live. I wouldn't know how other people could be like that. I was taught things like that long ago and it just seems like things like that are so simple things everybody should know them when they reach adulthood. The most I remember about my parents in my early ********* was the fact that they were always working. There were long stretches were I hardly saw them, usually that was a few minutes in the morning or late at night if I stayed up a little late. I will say one thing for them. They usually did the best with what they had to work with, which much of the time wasn't very much. They both had their faults and have made some bad decisions that hurt not only them but me also. I don't even hold all of that against them because it would be unfair to demand they be psychic back then and know all the unforeseen consequences their actions would make. I think my ****** always tried to do the best by her ******** and to play her cards as best as she could even when she was dealt a crappy hand. Maybe that is what she taught me the most.

 

[Irony]

From the day i could work i was made to earn as many things as i could by my parents. Altough we were quite wealthy and never had any problems financially they would never just hand me money for the sake of it. For example if i wanted to go and watch a movie i would have to vacuum a room just to get the money to go, i cooked 1 night a week from age 10 - 15 then 2 nights a week from 15 - 20. They always told me that they wont be able to hold my hand when i am older and that i should learn to fend for myself so to speak. Of course they always loved me, bought me nice presents for birthdays and christmas but they believed that in the real world i wouldnt have been able to survive if they waited on me hand and foot and for this i am very happy. I have a very well paying job and i believe that if it werent for my parents strict rules about eanring your money the right way and not been hand fed i probably would have just cruised through life with no purpose or no job!

 

[Jiggah33]

respect, for everyone. not just a woman, or a man, or an elder. Not that they shouldn't be but that everyone should be. No matter the race, gendre or age, respect and care should be shown. I do catch myself being disrespectful, but in those cases I fall on "do on to others, as they do onto you" I am a smartass so of course I use everything they taught me like that . I can do most things I need to survive. Cook, repair, clean, build...yada yada. I can't fix everything, and I **** cleaning, but I try. So in short, teach **** to be respectful and have morals in life. Without any sense of others is to be ignorant, and ignorance blinds. My own philosiphy, so don't quote it.

 

[member006]

Well, dear old ***** (rest his soul), he left my m-m a heavy load. She tried so very hard to fill his shoes. She worked hours without rest. She wanted me to have the best. She tried to raise me right, but I refused.
And I turned 21 in prison doing life without parole. No one could steer me right, but moma tried, moma tried. Moma tried to raide me better, but her pleading I denied. That leaves no one for to blame, cause moma tried.
(true story) :shock:

Well, thank you Mr. Cash. I know the thread wasn't nearly as exciting as the five "who would you fuck" or the seven "who's tits are the best" or any number of multiple "in your dreams" threads that have been posted here, but I do thank you for you taking the time to read it and share your wonderful view.

I do feel I have the right to ask a few things myself though and since I don't care about who you would fuck or who's tits you like. I asked this question. I was just curious as to how the ******* this generation taught their sons to be prepared in a world that has changed considerably since the days of their fathers. Again, thanks for your candid response. Have a nice day. :wave:

 

[member006]

If I learned one thing from my m-m, it was respect of a woman. Find yourself a good woman, marry her, and love her with all your heart. She did all the cooking, cleaning etc. for a long while, till we(two younger sisters) got a little older, then the chores started. Being from an Italian ******, "the women did everything, and that was okay then" she'd say, that was then. Now I do my own laundry, cook frequently, clean often, and I'd give my soul to my wife.

My *** is being drilled on this now! Teenagers!! :dunno:

I am Italian and was raised under the same "do for your man, its what you do" mindset and traditions. I broke the mold when I became "momma" I turned the tide in my ******, to have equal respect and responsibility. I saw my male cousins go right into the same ideal that women were to be almost slaves. My *** never was one way, he sometimes demanded my ****** let him help with various things. My ****** saw the window more and more as she got older and told me one day, " Make a difference, times have changed teach them well and of their self worth (speaking of my girls) and that I did.

With the changes in the world all boys I feel should be taught the same as girls always have been. It can't be assumed that they will find or want to find right away a woman to care for them. Leaving home earlier, living on their own longer before marriage. Many things have changed from the days our **** left our grandparents house on the day they married our moms.

 

[member006]

I want to say thanks to everyone that has responded so far. I have truly enjoyed reading all the posts. A lot more in depth responses than I had expected.

 

[4G63]

My **** taught me to ignore fools, but it's a very hard lesson to learn.

 

[member006]

My **** taught me to ignore fools, but it's a very hard lesson to learn.

For me?

 

[4G63]

For me?

No. IMO your not a fool.

 

[georges]

My ****** taught me languages as well as what I should say or not when I am with people. She also taught me how to cook meals, dry and iron my clothes, keeping my place clean as well as correctly managing my money.
My ****** learnt me how to repair my bike as well as repair and change some spare parts on the cars like brakes, spark plugs, wheels, light bulbs and rocker arms.
I from both learnt respect, tolerance, discipline but also that having a strong opinion when justified can be a good thing.
Hope it answers your question.

 

[Pariah000]

my parents divorced when i was 10. the best thing that could ever have happened. coz my *** actually WANTS to spend time with us now, he's actually tried to make an effort over the past 9 years. and ive been living with my mum the whole time, so im fairly girly i guess. but its hard still, coz every now and then i do or say something and i get looked at like im gay or something. i dont think mum taught me anything drastic other than to eat with my mouth shut, say please and thankyou, etc the basics, but being extremely introverted iv pretty much taught myself everything i know. but with some occasional outside assistance from my *******. so Mum (or m-m) got me on track and i kept it going. the last couple of years ive been cooking and cleaning up after myself etc, but thats coz mum moved out. <<< i know that sounds weird huh? lol.