Awkward

[lurkingdirk]

STDiva makes joke. Critical miss. STDiva loses a turn.

Don't worry. Your prolapsed rectum prevents anyone here taking you seriously.

 

[squallumz]

Don't worry. Your prolapsed rectum prevents anyone here taking you seriously.

and here i thought he was bringing me roses.

 

[ThatRedWing]

You could always go with the classic "Right back at ya". Of course this should be done with a clicking sound and double thumbs up gesture.

 

[Shifty]

"Of course" is a fine reply.

Agreed - I'll keep this one in mind.

It is somewhat awkward, virtually no one is trained for situations like that. Also, the person saying, "thank you for coming," is feeling awkward, too. The best thing to do, in my opinion, is just to smile and nod. Hugs, if you're close enough.

Funerals are for the living, not the dead. Do what you can to make the survivors feel good.

Agreed - I've been on the other side as well. Some people say the craziest things in this situation - but you know they always mean well.

 

[xfire]

When I was a kid my father would always hug the bereaved and say, "we're here for you, let us know if there's anything we can do for you." Things always seemed to loosen up at the gathering after the funeral.

 

[Jack Davenport]

I always respond with "So when is the reading of the will, by the way?"

 

[busaguy79]

 

[GodsEmbryo]

... how do you respond to this? :dunno:

I've personally blown this one on a few occasions. Some of my best (worst) responses have been:

- "No problem."
- "Any time."
- "Ok."

:1orglaugh the "any time" is awkward indeed.

I usually say "my sincere condolences" or "I'm sorry for your loss". It's uncomfortable for everyone and I don't think people are offended if you'd say "No problem" or the like, even if it's awkward. That you are there at the funeral, and there for them, and that you behave in a respectfull way counts as well. If not, more.

 

[Shifty]

:1orglaugh the "any time" is awkward indeed.

I usually say "my sincere condolences" or "I'm sorry for your loss". It's uncomfortable for everyone and I don't think people are offended if you'd say "No problem" or the like, even if it's awkward. That you are there at the funeral, and there for them, and that you behave in a respectfull way counts as well. If not, more.

But that's just it! I open saying "I'm sorry for your loss" or something like that ... then they counter with "Thank you for coming".

At this point I'm fresh the fuck outta ideas! :shock:

 

[os12tr]

Last funeral I went to was my grandma's. she was 60 when she passed away. I drove for 6 hours after my college orientation. It was awkward when my brothers and I showed up in jeans and a t-shirt and everyone else is in dress clothes. It also was snowing.

 

[Aria_DeLaunay]

"of course" is the first thing that popped into my head. Then follow it up with a personalization. "of course...she was such an amazing person" etc