Hey Aaliyah. I texted a girl I have a crush on pretty late (around midnight) the other night just saying something stupid like, "Ugh. Wide awake. Wanting to run away from work tomorrow. Haha." Do you think I blew it because now she knows I was lying awake thinking of her, or can I just play it off like it never happened?
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LOL well gee sorry it wasn't the answer you wanted..
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What's the big deal? Why do you think it either ruined it for you, or it needs to be ignored? To me that's something sweet and casual. You didn't say anything creepy, and if she likes you at all, she will LIKE to think that you're thinking of her. Now, honestly, if you txtd me at midnight, I wouldn't MIND, usually people who mind being txtd that late will turn their phone or sound off anyways, but I might not txt you back.. just because I might be sleeping, or just because well, it's LATE. So don't assume the fact that she didn't txt you back as anything.. (its so cute but also fucking nerve wracking when you first start dating someone and you analyze their every move and try to read into things because DAMNIT you want to know if they like you too!!! But not everything means SOMETHING, ya know?) So don't worry about so much, babe. She might even casually bring it up next time you see each other, or she might not. I would say send her a couple more casual txts.. ask her how her day is, or just say something like "I hope you're having an awesome day!" and see what she says.. If you txt her a few more times and get no response, THEN you can start reading into it and maybe "take a hint" and leave her alone. But I would say do not panic and just relax and pay her some attention and see what happens from there! Good luck!
What's the big deal? Why do you think it either ruined it for you, or it needs to be ignored? To me that's something sweet and casual. You didn't say anything creepy, and if she likes you at all, she will LIKE to think that you're thinking of her. Now, honestly, if you txtd me at midnight, I wouldn't MIND, usually people who mind being txtd that late will turn their phone or sound off anyways, but I might not txt you back.. just because I might be sleeping, or just because well, it's LATE. So don't assume the fact that she didn't txt you back as anything.. (its so cute but also fucking nerve wracking when you first start dating someone and you analyze their every move and try to read into things because DAMNIT you want to know if they like you too!!! But not everything means SOMETHING, ya know?) So don't worry about so much, babe. She might even casually bring it up next time you see each other, or she might not. I would say send her a couple more casual txts.. ask her how her day is, or just say something like "I hope you're having an awesome day!" and see what she says.. If you txt her a few more times and get no response, THEN you can start reading into it and maybe "take a hint" and leave her alone. But I would say do not panic and just relax and pay her some attention and see what happens from there! Good luck!
Thanks Aaliyah. That's some good advice, and I feel a lot more relaxed about it now. You're the best!
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yeah babe don't over think it! Just relax and try to have fun with it
Nobody in their right mind is going to think bad of you for a simple, innocent txt like that!I'll know it is time to leave the industry when....................................
Just reading this whole thread and come upon this. I like it. Well saidWhat do you mean "worth it?" You gain nor lose nothing by saying it.. Personally, I say both: "Merry Xmas and Happy Holidays" or "Happy Chanauka and Happy Holidays" to my Jewish friends.
But on the flipside of that, I don't understand or get along with people who take themselves seriously, and that includes people who seem to search for things to be offended about. If you chose to be offended by what is obviously just a well wishing, then you're an asshole, or at least a crabby person, and I won't be around you long enough to wish you a Merry or Happy anything
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LOL that's from last year I think but I still stand by it! I just don't understand people who take themselves seriously or look for reasons to be offended. Can't we all just get along.
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When I'm done with it. When I don't feel like doing it anymore. Not going to be any time soon. But I will only do it for as long as I enjoy it and have a passion for it. I say there are some jobs where if you don't absolutely LOVE what you're doing, it's tragic. Porn is one of them. I see these girls who hate men, hate sex, but feel trapped, for whatever reason, and keep on showing up to set with their shitty attitudes and deliver mediocre scenes with no passion in them. I will never, ever be that girl. I was a teacher before porn, I almost have my college degree, I know I could succeed in anything I put my mind to. I don't know what that will be or when, but I'm not worried!
Oh I know it's from way back. Been gone a long time just playing catch up. I agree with the seriously thing however I am non-religious so any of what you say works for me.
Anyways moving on your a lovely lady. I am sure the question has been asked before but what are the things you have no wish to do in the industry? Plus what are your long term plans?
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Like I said on the Elegant Angel podcast last night, I am no longer going to say "I will never do THAT" because obviously 2 years ago I was swearing up and down that I would never do b/g, and here I am, not only doing it, but loving it. Now I feel that way about anal.. but who knows if I'll become an anal queen this time next year? My tastes and opinions are constantly changing, and with each scene I am exploring my sexual side and expanding my horizons. For NOW, for the next 2 months, I can tell you I won't be doing any anal or gangbangs.. that's all I can tell you.
I do, however, have no wish to do racist motivated scenes, such as "black on blondes" type of scenes where the scenario is "big black man takes advantage of little white girl" Nor will I ever use the N word. That's just not a turn on for me, and something I have no wish to be a part of, even t is IT just a fantasy. To clarify, I WILL shoot IR scenes with black performers, I WON'T degrade them according to their race.
And there's some bitches and people who partake in what I would consider "high std risk" behavior" that are on my NO list and I won't work with no matter what the pay is.. but those are the only things I can say for SURE I will never do!
Like I said on the Elegant Angel podcast last night, I am no longer going to say "I will never do THAT" because obviously 2 years ago I was swearing up and down that I would never do b/g, and here I am, not only doing it, but loving it. Now I feel that way about anal.. but who knows if I'll become an anal queen this time next year? My tastes and opinions are constantly changing, and with each scene I am exploring my sexual side and expanding my horizons. For NOW, for the next 2 months, I can tell you I won't be doing any anal or gangbangs.. that's all I can tell you.
I do, however, have no wish to do racist motivated scenes, such as "black on blondes" type of scenes where the scenario is "big black man takes advantage of little white girl" Nor will I ever use the N word. That's just not a turn on for me, and something I have no wish to be a part of, even t is IT just a fantasy. To clarify, I WILL shoot IR scenes with black performers, I WON'T degrade them according to their race.
And there's some bitches and people who partake in what I would consider "high std risk" behavior" that are on my NO list and I won't work with no matter what the pay is.. but those are the only things I can say for SURE I will never do!
I honestly expected those answer and am quite happy with them. Also I agree with the never say never. You actually answered some other questions that I had not even asked.
What do you know now that you wish you knew when you first started in the business?
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oh so many things lol.. First of all, I would have gave myself a name easier to spell and pronounce. My FreeOnes ranking would def be less than 100 if I had an easier name LOL! I would of also started b/g a lot sooner. I wish I knew which companies/directors are legit and which are creeps and/or a waste of my time. I also would of been more careful who I shoot "Trade scenes" with, since some of those scenes are STILL in circulation, being sold for next to nothing, posted on every damn website out there.. a "free shoot" is NEVER free, just because I'm not paying actual dollars for it!
But for the most part I have been lucky and chosen wisely and I'm happy with my career and where I am now. I put in my time and slowly built up my fanbase thru 8 years of webcams before I ever even did a shoot. Then I started with solo, slowly progressed into g/g, then waited almost 2 years to do b/g. I'm GLAD I took it slow and "did it my way"
I know what you do onscreen is work - I get it. Last time I checked, though, you are a human being, and that means some days are better than others. I know you have to be professional in all you do - and you are. How do you handle the mood swings that affect your life but you still have something to shoot that day? By that I mean I'm sure there are days where you just don't want to go in and shoot something but you have to do it so you do it. I'm sure there are also days where you are so fucking horny that a gust of wind sends shivers down your spine and makes you wet and when you get on set instead of working your way up to the sex you just wanna jump your partner and start fucking NOW. So how do you deal with being human and having times where you want it more than others.
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i am sure this might be the only thing you wont say it's stupid what i'm saying, LOL, but you look gorgeous and sexy
If you want to tell me what to wear, what to say, etc, you can order a custom video from me. Then you get to be the director.
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no, have you?
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