I'm sure that some of you will troll the hell out of me. I'd expect no less. However, I have some thoughts about some of the things that have happened recently and wanted to air them in the open. I also wanted to call attention to all of those who bring us so much entertainment and happiness. Enjoy and troll away.
The world of adult entertainment or porn, whatever you choose to call it, is a very sordid one. This year we've seen a rash of some of the problems that surround the porn industry come to the forefront, especially in the last several weeks. With the overdose deaths of August Ames, Yurizan Beltran, and Shyla Stylez in the last few months; the porn industry has seemingly taken some very good people from us too soon.
Society likes to judge them for making money on marketing their bodies and sex while in the same hand enjoying violence, sex, and theft on a daily basis in every other walk of life. However, that's another argument for another time. Porn is exactly what it is - adult entertainment. It is one of the largest money-making industries in the world. Yet, the performers are victimized, short changed, ostracized, criticized, and objectified. In no other industry other than prostitution do people feel that porn stars often get what they deserve when it comes to their lives. It's a vicious cycle of Puritanism that haunts the United States worse than any other country.
I've been on the fringes of the industry for a good number of year, interacting with models getting started or simply acting as a journalist or forum moderator on several adult entertainment websites. Many types of people who aren't porn stars come and go on these fringes. It's an interesting space to be in when one has the time and energy to deal with the best and worst of people.
Notice the last word in the last sentence of that last paragraph - people. Porn stars and the people who consume their product are people. Often times that is what is forgotten when all is said and done. Whether you're getting aroused behind your keyboard watching a camshow or video or you're a performer or producer, we are all people. Flawed, broken, quirky, good, evil, weird, vanilla, gay, straight - the porn world is a microcosm of our great world we live in. "Different strokes for different folks" literally is the truth. People change and some people stay the same. In the end, we are all people.
For the fan - the one who pays and support the websites and performers - most generally are good consumers. Performers and fans usually have great relationships - some even more so if you've ever watched the FuckAFan series or participated in one. They are the lifeblood of the adult industry. Performers usually are out to please their audience whether it be broad or niche as often as possible because they 1. get paid to 2. they enjoy it. Porn is as much a lifestyle choice as it is a job or career. Yet, it should most often end there - as a job. Porn has its fair share of occupational hazards as well as its rewards. I've never been a performer so I can't speak to the perks of the job. However, it does take a special kind of person to be a porn performer - just like it takes a special kind of person to be a doctor, lawyer, teacher, soldier, actor, musician, garbage man, etc.
Most often the unique aspects of personality traits comes to how one deals with porn's job hazards. Porn has some of the most lurid problems. 1. Porn consumers (notice I didn't say fan here) don't realize that they don't own a porn star's job, performances, body, or life away from porn. They often times tell the performer how they should perform their job, shave and cut their hair, what specific acts they should do, or know everything there is to know about them. This predatory mentality is not only problematic but it's dangerous. Doxying is as much a violation of a performer's life as it is their body. No one should ever get to decide how someone should life. That's slavery, and last I checked, that's frowned upon. 2. Porn consumers often like to criticize performers bodies and lives. As I stated above, "different strokes for different folks." There are over 143,000 performers in the Internet Adult Film Database (IAFD). It's simply easy to move on and find someone else. With camming become all the more prevalent, there is literally a new cam show opening each week. Bullying a performer into doing anal or shaving her bush, etc. does nothing but hinder the production and happiness of others. Get out of your own way and go find another performer who performs or looks the way you fantasize about. 3. Porn consumers don't pay for content. This is by far the biggest problem. When tube sites, *******s, and swap forums house content, it takes money out of the pockets of the people who get to put out said content. It forces those lesser known talents out because they aren't making money or the actual porn stars into more lucrative pastures and away from producing actual content. You have only yourself to blame if you pirate your favorite website's content and don't pay for it. 4. Drugs and alcohol are usually readily available. I've never been on a porn set so this part comes only from heresy, but far too many performers fall victim to substance abuse. It's cheap. It's a painkiller. It fills a void. It's numbing. Most of the successful performers in the business find a way to balance themselves between "the party" of porn and "the life" of porn and life away from it. Sadly, not many end up finding that balance and the industry chews up and spits out many each year. This was a problem even before the imminent news and terribly saddening losses we've experience recently.
With all that being said, depression and anxiety are probably the last thing I'll mention here. It's not just a porn problem, though. Porn and social media has a great way of exacerbating both of those issues. Porn deals alot with personal acceptance and loving one's self as much as actual sex itself. Again, a special kind of person who loves their self and their body usually has the strength to survive the world of porn for any length of time. Unfortunately, the world of porn doesn't have a great mental health safety net for many who deal with the demons of anxiety, depression, and abuse to fall back on. Maybe with the current deaths this issue might be addressed in the near future. I'm not an industry insider, so I'm not sure if there are any reputable services available for those who are in the porn industry to call upon. If one doesn't exist, it probably should.
I've had the great fortune of interacting with several great people within the industry over the years. I can honestly say things that I love about each of them personally through our interactions. I'll do that here to encourage you all to do the same in hopes that you all inundate their inboxes, feeds, and websites with nothing but positivity and love. You never know who may need to hear it, because just like us "normal" people outside the world of porn, they deal with the crap that life throws at all of us and have bad days.
I'll list them here with those I've had the most to the least interaction:
1. Danielle FTV/Delaunay - What a wonderful soul! She's not scared to be a nerd, a sex goddess, and always willing to interact with her fans. I sent her a movie script as a contest several years ago and did an interview for a short lived blog that now appears on FreeOnes. The amazing and extreme things that she can do and take with her body are mesmerizing to watch. She also frequently updates her website with new content. Though I've not been a member of her website for awhile, I still manage to catch her on FTV or catch myself watching her old Kink.com shoots.
2. Miss Hybrid - My British Tart. My God that woman could read me the phonebook and I'd be a walking mess. Despite that, she's also been one of the most fantastic and ongoing pen pals I've had over the years. One of these days I hope to make it to England and have a beverage with her. If not, one can dream right?
3. Nikki Nova - One of the first ladies I had the opportunity to talk to way back in the day. Nikki no longer is involved with adult modeling. I remember when she almost died. Our long emails back then really saw me through some tough times. I still think her sets with Suze Randall are some of the best Suze ever shot.
4. Samantha Grace - I began talking to Samantha when she still lived in Ohio when MySpace was still a thing. She was so candid. At one point, I contemplated coming to Ohio to shoot her for ModelMayhem but finances and timing never worked out. I love how her career exploded when she moved to California. While she's not as big a name on this list as those ahead of her, she's got that old school fetish pin-up vibe that's endearing and sexy. She also isn't afraid to get in touch with her inner nerd.
5. Briana Banks - I always thought Briana was one of the most enthusiastic performers in the early days of Internet porn. She was my favorite Vivid girl. I've had a great opportunity on a few occasions to talk to her on FreeOnes when she returned from a hiatus in adult. Her years of experience and dealing with the ups and downs of the porn industry make her one of the most valuable voices in adult entertainment. I'm eager to hear her story.
6. Kaylee Rayne, Sabrina Deep, Ava Addams, and Andi Land - some old school FreeOnes and Miss FreeOnes Contest friends. Andi's website was one of the first I bought a sub to. Ava realized that MILF porn wasn't too far out there. Sabrina and Kaylee were just nice as hell to me as a mod at FreeOnes. OCSMs for life!
7. Jeri Lynn - One of my favorite FTV Girls of all time. She was extreme. She reminded me of a girl I tried to ask out in college. I follow/followed her on SnapChat, ManyVids, Twitter, etc. She's so open and candid with her fans. Her life is completely out there. It's been ironic, too, that her kids are the same age as mine and same month of birth, too. Crazy.
8. Melody Wylde - the most recent name on the list. She recently appeared on Penthouse's cover and on one of my favorite photography websites MetArt. She's a squirt queen. She made me want to subscribe to FTVGirls again after a long hiatus. She does some great cosplay work and is into fandom. I'm not that hardcore into both - but she definitely makes things like ComicCon sound dirty sexy. Oh, and she games a bit.
9. Briana Lee & Maggie Green- some of my Midwest girls. They were two of my OCSM favorites. Their fan devotion on the FreeOnes board was off the charts at one time. I don't know if they've come back or not because they parlayed the FreeOnes Board into some great website work down the line. I've not spoken to either of them in a great long while. I was writing a porn script for Briana, Maggie, and Danielle at one time to perform together. Oh well, great thing about fan fiction is that it's great to put fantasy to paper. They were all a part of my dark, twisted sex fantasy at one point.
10. Elektra Knight - she's not really an adult performer but her and I had some pleasure interactions several years ago when her modeling career was taking off. I saw a Facebook post with her in it recently. She doesn't seemed to have aged a day.
11. Jinxypie & Bella Bellini - I did interviews with them for FreeOnes many years ago. I don't know what became of them, but they were both gracious, fun, and welcoming.
There you have it. Now, it's your turn. Spread the love.
The world of adult entertainment or porn, whatever you choose to call it, is a very sordid one. This year we've seen a rash of some of the problems that surround the porn industry come to the forefront, especially in the last several weeks. With the overdose deaths of August Ames, Yurizan Beltran, and Shyla Stylez in the last few months; the porn industry has seemingly taken some very good people from us too soon.
Society likes to judge them for making money on marketing their bodies and sex while in the same hand enjoying violence, sex, and theft on a daily basis in every other walk of life. However, that's another argument for another time. Porn is exactly what it is - adult entertainment. It is one of the largest money-making industries in the world. Yet, the performers are victimized, short changed, ostracized, criticized, and objectified. In no other industry other than prostitution do people feel that porn stars often get what they deserve when it comes to their lives. It's a vicious cycle of Puritanism that haunts the United States worse than any other country.
I've been on the fringes of the industry for a good number of year, interacting with models getting started or simply acting as a journalist or forum moderator on several adult entertainment websites. Many types of people who aren't porn stars come and go on these fringes. It's an interesting space to be in when one has the time and energy to deal with the best and worst of people.
Notice the last word in the last sentence of that last paragraph - people. Porn stars and the people who consume their product are people. Often times that is what is forgotten when all is said and done. Whether you're getting aroused behind your keyboard watching a camshow or video or you're a performer or producer, we are all people. Flawed, broken, quirky, good, evil, weird, vanilla, gay, straight - the porn world is a microcosm of our great world we live in. "Different strokes for different folks" literally is the truth. People change and some people stay the same. In the end, we are all people.
For the fan - the one who pays and support the websites and performers - most generally are good consumers. Performers and fans usually have great relationships - some even more so if you've ever watched the FuckAFan series or participated in one. They are the lifeblood of the adult industry. Performers usually are out to please their audience whether it be broad or niche as often as possible because they 1. get paid to 2. they enjoy it. Porn is as much a lifestyle choice as it is a job or career. Yet, it should most often end there - as a job. Porn has its fair share of occupational hazards as well as its rewards. I've never been a performer so I can't speak to the perks of the job. However, it does take a special kind of person to be a porn performer - just like it takes a special kind of person to be a doctor, lawyer, teacher, soldier, actor, musician, garbage man, etc.
Most often the unique aspects of personality traits comes to how one deals with porn's job hazards. Porn has some of the most lurid problems. 1. Porn consumers (notice I didn't say fan here) don't realize that they don't own a porn star's job, performances, body, or life away from porn. They often times tell the performer how they should perform their job, shave and cut their hair, what specific acts they should do, or know everything there is to know about them. This predatory mentality is not only problematic but it's dangerous. Doxying is as much a violation of a performer's life as it is their body. No one should ever get to decide how someone should life. That's slavery, and last I checked, that's frowned upon. 2. Porn consumers often like to criticize performers bodies and lives. As I stated above, "different strokes for different folks." There are over 143,000 performers in the Internet Adult Film Database (IAFD). It's simply easy to move on and find someone else. With camming become all the more prevalent, there is literally a new cam show opening each week. Bullying a performer into doing anal or shaving her bush, etc. does nothing but hinder the production and happiness of others. Get out of your own way and go find another performer who performs or looks the way you fantasize about. 3. Porn consumers don't pay for content. This is by far the biggest problem. When tube sites, *******s, and swap forums house content, it takes money out of the pockets of the people who get to put out said content. It forces those lesser known talents out because they aren't making money or the actual porn stars into more lucrative pastures and away from producing actual content. You have only yourself to blame if you pirate your favorite website's content and don't pay for it. 4. Drugs and alcohol are usually readily available. I've never been on a porn set so this part comes only from heresy, but far too many performers fall victim to substance abuse. It's cheap. It's a painkiller. It fills a void. It's numbing. Most of the successful performers in the business find a way to balance themselves between "the party" of porn and "the life" of porn and life away from it. Sadly, not many end up finding that balance and the industry chews up and spits out many each year. This was a problem even before the imminent news and terribly saddening losses we've experience recently.
With all that being said, depression and anxiety are probably the last thing I'll mention here. It's not just a porn problem, though. Porn and social media has a great way of exacerbating both of those issues. Porn deals alot with personal acceptance and loving one's self as much as actual sex itself. Again, a special kind of person who loves their self and their body usually has the strength to survive the world of porn for any length of time. Unfortunately, the world of porn doesn't have a great mental health safety net for many who deal with the demons of anxiety, depression, and abuse to fall back on. Maybe with the current deaths this issue might be addressed in the near future. I'm not an industry insider, so I'm not sure if there are any reputable services available for those who are in the porn industry to call upon. If one doesn't exist, it probably should.
I've had the great fortune of interacting with several great people within the industry over the years. I can honestly say things that I love about each of them personally through our interactions. I'll do that here to encourage you all to do the same in hopes that you all inundate their inboxes, feeds, and websites with nothing but positivity and love. You never know who may need to hear it, because just like us "normal" people outside the world of porn, they deal with the crap that life throws at all of us and have bad days.
I'll list them here with those I've had the most to the least interaction:
1. Danielle FTV/Delaunay - What a wonderful soul! She's not scared to be a nerd, a sex goddess, and always willing to interact with her fans. I sent her a movie script as a contest several years ago and did an interview for a short lived blog that now appears on FreeOnes. The amazing and extreme things that she can do and take with her body are mesmerizing to watch. She also frequently updates her website with new content. Though I've not been a member of her website for awhile, I still manage to catch her on FTV or catch myself watching her old Kink.com shoots.
2. Miss Hybrid - My British Tart. My God that woman could read me the phonebook and I'd be a walking mess. Despite that, she's also been one of the most fantastic and ongoing pen pals I've had over the years. One of these days I hope to make it to England and have a beverage with her. If not, one can dream right?
3. Nikki Nova - One of the first ladies I had the opportunity to talk to way back in the day. Nikki no longer is involved with adult modeling. I remember when she almost died. Our long emails back then really saw me through some tough times. I still think her sets with Suze Randall are some of the best Suze ever shot.
4. Samantha Grace - I began talking to Samantha when she still lived in Ohio when MySpace was still a thing. She was so candid. At one point, I contemplated coming to Ohio to shoot her for ModelMayhem but finances and timing never worked out. I love how her career exploded when she moved to California. While she's not as big a name on this list as those ahead of her, she's got that old school fetish pin-up vibe that's endearing and sexy. She also isn't afraid to get in touch with her inner nerd.
5. Briana Banks - I always thought Briana was one of the most enthusiastic performers in the early days of Internet porn. She was my favorite Vivid girl. I've had a great opportunity on a few occasions to talk to her on FreeOnes when she returned from a hiatus in adult. Her years of experience and dealing with the ups and downs of the porn industry make her one of the most valuable voices in adult entertainment. I'm eager to hear her story.
6. Kaylee Rayne, Sabrina Deep, Ava Addams, and Andi Land - some old school FreeOnes and Miss FreeOnes Contest friends. Andi's website was one of the first I bought a sub to. Ava realized that MILF porn wasn't too far out there. Sabrina and Kaylee were just nice as hell to me as a mod at FreeOnes. OCSMs for life!
7. Jeri Lynn - One of my favorite FTV Girls of all time. She was extreme. She reminded me of a girl I tried to ask out in college. I follow/followed her on SnapChat, ManyVids, Twitter, etc. She's so open and candid with her fans. Her life is completely out there. It's been ironic, too, that her kids are the same age as mine and same month of birth, too. Crazy.
8. Melody Wylde - the most recent name on the list. She recently appeared on Penthouse's cover and on one of my favorite photography websites MetArt. She's a squirt queen. She made me want to subscribe to FTVGirls again after a long hiatus. She does some great cosplay work and is into fandom. I'm not that hardcore into both - but she definitely makes things like ComicCon sound dirty sexy. Oh, and she games a bit.
9. Briana Lee & Maggie Green- some of my Midwest girls. They were two of my OCSM favorites. Their fan devotion on the FreeOnes board was off the charts at one time. I don't know if they've come back or not because they parlayed the FreeOnes Board into some great website work down the line. I've not spoken to either of them in a great long while. I was writing a porn script for Briana, Maggie, and Danielle at one time to perform together. Oh well, great thing about fan fiction is that it's great to put fantasy to paper. They were all a part of my dark, twisted sex fantasy at one point.
10. Elektra Knight - she's not really an adult performer but her and I had some pleasure interactions several years ago when her modeling career was taking off. I saw a Facebook post with her in it recently. She doesn't seemed to have aged a day.
11. Jinxypie & Bella Bellini - I did interviews with them for FreeOnes many years ago. I don't know what became of them, but they were both gracious, fun, and welcoming.
There you have it. Now, it's your turn. Spread the love.
